Anyone else not having a big family Christmas?

[coribells]

It will be just DH, DS and I for Christmas. It usually is this way. Dh and I are both Australian so dont have the big family gatherings to attend. I dont really get on with most of my family , and DH is Jewish so his lot dont really do Christmas anyway.(so wouldnt be any different if we lived there)
We always have a lovely time, and catch up with friends over the Christmas period but sometimes I just feel a little bit left out and down because we dont attend big do's. Anyone else feel this way?

I would love that.. i have dh's sister and her family (her dh two kids 16&13) they will oan abouit my dd 4 who will want to watch shrek and toy story and sis inlaw well she will decide if she wants to talk to me????

You can come to my house if i can change with you?????

I've never done that - I always cook for the rest of the family - but I think it must be lovely to just spend it together as a couple with your child or children. So long as you see friends over the rest of Christmas I honestly don't think you're missing out: enjoy your Christmas together, just the three of you

As usual it will just be me, dh, ds1 and ds2 at Christmas. MIL isn't really into Christmas, although she may drop in to visit tomorrow. The rest of my family usually go to my mother's house but as usual we're not invited. It's generally peaceful at home by ourselves though so I'm really looking forward to it.

I always fail to understand why people trawl the length of the country to spend time with relatives when they have 364 other days in the year to do it. I never invite family over at Christmas nor will I go anywhere. I find it most bizarre that people will split the day between two families so as not to show favouritism or alternate Christmas each year. This year like the last 5 we will be just the 4 of us. Prior to children we would spend the day just the 2 of us. It was and continues to be fab. No pressure, no stress, no worries about burning the turkey.

It's just me, dh, ds and dd too, I love it. No-one else to please, just us lot lolling around the house, bliss. I don't feel left out AT ALL, I really like it.

I do enjoy Christmas, and hearing people moan about it at work makes me realise I do enjoy it because I dont have any pressure on me to put up with people I dont like. On the other hand, when people ask me what I am doing for Christmas and I say it is just the three I do get some pitiful looks sometimes, and feel a bit resentful and sad.

Coribells - it will be the same in our house, just the 3 of us, we also live so far from our families, and this is the first year that dh will actually have Christmas day off!!! We also are not having turkey, dh a chef so he is sick of the sight of them by the time christmas day gets here, he wants lamb!!! I don't care what we have cos it means we are spending the day together
Enjoy your day whatever you do!!!

We usually go to my parents in France but this year it's just the three of us in Bristol. I will miss not seeing my family, as it's the only time i get to see my brothers, sils and nephews . But I wonder if it might make them realise they could make the 'effort' to visit us in the UK during holidays maybe... My parents are the only ones who come over to see us.
I am really looking forward to being grown up and cooking lots of nice stuff for us though and just enjoying being together for a few days.

we don't really have any rellies, just my mum and her partner, so it will be just them, DH and DS. it will be nice and relaxed, but i sometimes envy people who have hordes to feed. but we're having a NYE party this year with a gang of friends, so that will be the blow-out for us!

i find myself really intolerant of all the people who say they don't like their families, and fall out over really petty things, they don't know how lucky they are to have them

It is just dh , ds and Me.
And I couldn't think of anything nicer.
Dh is one of six and when I met him , I found out that they have their 'family do' a week before christmas - thus we have already had the 'family do'.

I always thought that that was a brilliant idea.

No travelling the bredth of britain, as trifle talks about.

We are looking forward to spending a week together, snuggled up on the sofa, local days out etc etc.
Visiting no one.
Heaven.

Cribells - Enjoy it. You're not missing nothing, by saving yourself 5 1/2 hours sat on the M25 or the M1 or something.

Enjoy eachother - that really is what christmas is all about.

It's just me and dd.

Just me, DP and DD before that was always just me and DP.

Used to live the other end of the country from my family so didn't want to go back now that we are only and hour away it will still be the 3 of us.

No dressing up it will be about spending the whole day playing with DD and messing about.

it's just me, dh,ds and dd....We visit extended family between xmas and New Year

It's just me, dh, ds1 and ds2: by choice - I love it. We visit as many relatives as we can over the Christmas break, but personally I don't like big gatherings. And on Christmas Eve/Christmas Day we prefer to please ourselves and do what suits us.

it will just be me, dp, my mum (As she is on her own) and baba too

so it will be a quiet Xmas this year due to having no car

Christmas Day is always just the three of us (pre DD, the two of us) and i intend it always to stay that way for now. Love it and wouldn't want to change it. It is the one day a year whiich is just for us.

Christmas Eve and Boxing Day are the big family days for us. And we also see family and/or friends on the rest of the holiday week too.

Just me ,dh and ds go to his family christmas day -boxing day

Last year was our first christmas at the hotel and we invited the whole family to stay the weekend. It was really good fun, all rooms were full of family and we had a massive long dining table for xmas dinner - it is really nice to have the space to do that. This year it's just me DH, Ds1 & 2 and my Mum so it will be really nice and quiet. We're going to eat in the bar and put all the toys in the dining room so the kids can play and we can chill out watching tv after dinner

We always have my Mum & Dad for lunch,I'm an only child and hate to think of them on their own,even if my Mum does wind me up.
DH has a huge family,he's one of six children,and all but his sister has 3 children themselves.
They all stay in their own houses for Christmas day and MIL goes to whoever she wants.MIL used to do a big "Do" on Boxing day,with all his family plus cousins,aunts and uncles(@30-40 people), but she's getting on now and she lives in Spain so doesn't have her own house here anymore,just visits.

Pre-dd I used to stay with my mum. We have a very small family, just me and my brother, my father died way back. Since dd I've taken dd to stay with my mum but this year we're staying here for the first time - just me, dd and dp. I'm also Jewish and Christmas hasn't been a big deal so I don't mind at all it being quiet. Dp isn't close to his family.

me, My dad is dead, mum has dementia and has been in hospital for 4 years, all of the rest of the family live too far to visit.

I miss the busy family xmas I had as a child, with people dropping in through the day

roisin....dont you have 3 boys or am I confused?

Just us this year - me, dh, ds1, dd and ds2 - perfect.

Collision, I have two gorgeous boys (6 and 8).
But I also had a baby boy adopted at birth 16 years ago, so occasionally talk about 3 births, or 3 pregnancies or something.
Or you may just be confusing me with someone else

We live in Germany and for the past few years we've flown back to the UK and had hectic Christmases where we try and see EVERYONE we know. (including last Christmas when i was 6 months pregnant)
This year it's just me, DH and 8.5month old DD... so just lots of time to play, eat, veg out. Can't wait. Just hope it snows too.