It's my BIL's ex fiancee, she's only 24.
I started a thread a while ago (some of you may remember) asking for advice regarding contact with her, as BIL had left her for someone else.
I felt uncomfortable gong to see her and speaking to her as the new partner is lovely, we get on so well and BIL seems so much happier. They also live together now.
Mumsnetters said what I was thinking and basically I stopped going to see her, so we haven't been in touch for 5/6 months.
We used to get on reasonably well but sometimes found her a bit like Jeckyll and Hyde.
Well yesterday before I went to work, my MIL came to pick up my dd and said that she was going down to see her and take her a little pressie as my FIL thought it was only fair (a big shock for me as my MIL never liked her that much)
Well I've spoke to her today and she said that she looks so so ill.
She weighs 5 stone, her hair is falling out, her heart and liver is packing in and she cannot walk properly.
A thyroid problem has been ruled out, my MIL said she looks just like her dad did when he was dying of cancer
My personal opinion is that she dangerously anorexic. She works in nutrition and is and always was obsessed with food. She stopped eating as much meat and basically lived off veg, salad and anything that was 0% fat.
When she split up with BIL she went to the gym everyday and I seriously mean everyday.
She was always thin size 6/8 but I honestly think she's gone too far this time.
I haven't a clue what to do. My MIL said she thinks it's best we go and see her which I want to do but she also said to be prepared as it is very upsetting to see her because she looks so ill.
The situation is so awkward but this latest news has really upset me.
Do I go and offer support and carry on seeing her. Thats what I feel I should do but it is so difficult.
I'm so confused and upset, I don't know what to do.