I am so so so stressed please help me calm down. Seems like a mountain of things has just fallen on top of me.

[tamba]

I am stressed about the nursery, Ive already started a thread on that.

Just noticed that npower have been still taking money from our account, called them and they have to look into it before they can do anything about it. We closed our account with them months ago

Dh isnt talking to me as im stressed and hiding away in my room, hes just said im a crap mom and its no wonder our kids are daddys boys.

I am ill. I have a 'comprimised immune system' whatever that is and have to go to the hospital in Jan. I have been feeling shit for months.

I also have a nasty prolapse and have to have an op. Seeing gyne in Jan too.

Ive had to defer college for a year due to feeling like crap constantly.

My kids have chest infections and have been playing up lately. Also a thread on that somewhere.

My house is a mess

I havent done the xmas food shopping and dh is in to much of a mood to take me in the car. We will end up doing it with the kids on Christmas eve when its really busy and we will all get stressed

I have a headache and am feeling totally miserable. All the active convos are red at the moment as ive just been sat here staring at the screen

I am going to either cry or burst I am so stressed. Help!!!!!!

Have a paracetamol and a cuppa.

Make a to do list and work your way through what you needs sorting and what can be put off.

Your dh needs to get his head out of his arse and help out, he can mind the kids while you shop/clean. Or he can shop/clean!

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Wow,too too much for one person.
Your dh sounds like an arse.
I would suggest shopping in the middle of the night-less stress.

I echo everyone else's comments and add, 'a year from now will this all matter?' Probably not.

Life is too short honey to feel so stressed. 'Aint worth it.

DH needs to get off his high horse and start being a partner rather than making you feel even worse by putting you down. I echo the list idea. Write everything down that need doing and divide it up between you and DH. Re the house being a mess, don't stress over that too much. Have a quick tidy round in each room (my mum always says that if a room is tidy then people don't see the dirt) and clean the bathroom, loo and kitchen then hoover the living room and that is plenty. Can any relatives/neighbours baysit for a while tonight while you and DH go shopping (have you got a 24 hrs Asda, Tesco etc near by?) Again, before you go make a list of everything including boring stuff like loo roll, tin foil etc. HTH, good luck. x

why can't your dh do the fkn shopping?

your dh needs to be told thats hes a shitbag and tell him xmas is cancelled and hes a twat

lists are always good, they get things into perspective rather thsn s jumbled up head getting you stressed
so i agree with the others, write that list and SPLIT it between you
good luck
and a cuddle for you

how old are the kids? Would they be gutted about egg and chips on Christmas day? Would you? If the answer to both is no, have egg and chips. My mum did theis once when she had fallen out with my dad, he was gutted, everyone else was really chuffed (no sprouts with egg and chips!)

Tell him you are ill and will not do it on your own. Then, if he doesn't help you, don't do it. Make a point of not doing it. The chances are the kids will just want toys and chocolate on the day anyway.

Thank you all. Sorry i didnt answer earlier but i crawled into bed and have only just dragged myself up again

Dh isnt usually so much of an arse. I guess its because He works long hours and has had to do loads with the house and boys too over the last few months. I cant complain too much. I havent had to wash up or do the washing since i first started feeling ill. Hes just stressed and tired. I think though because I have felt crap for so long its kind of lost its affect if that makes sense. Hes like "Oh youre feeling ill, so? you always feel ill" hmmm yes but that doesnt make me feel any less crap!

Im going to his moms for dinner tonight (she doesnt know that yet though!) but she wont mind. And have just run myself a bath.

I think its just getting to me that I have felt yuk with no break from it for months and I have mouth ulcers too cause of it and even the choccie i bought to cheer myself up tastes yuk! I am trying to stay positive and be happy that ive lost three stone through feeling crap but im running out of silver linings!

Thanks all xxxx

Kids are 3 and 1 BTW.

tamba cant you go to relatives for xmas dinner
to relieve some of the stress
sorry you are feeling so down and poorly
hugs
xxx

Mil does a huge xmas dinner on xmas eve with different meats and stuff which is always fab (although she always disguses the parsnips as roast potatoes which always get me )

I am feeling alot better now, I just let it get to me earlier which doesnt happen very often.

Dh has been and given me a cuddle and made me some bioled eggs and soldiers, It must get to him at times to as he has been more or less a single parent for a few weeks as I havent been doing an awful lot around the house.

Looking forward to January when i can finally get all this sorted at the hospital. (I got a nasty virus a few months ago which my body didnt fight off very well so has left my immune system struggling and the more bugs I get the longer it takes for it to pick up so I havent been out much lately either)

Off to eat and have a bath, thanks again all xxx