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Playgroup Christmas Party - what is yours like?

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ItllBeLonelymumThisChristmas · 14/12/2005 11:20

Ds3 is supposed to be going to a Christmas party at his playgroup this pm. I wasn't very impressed by the arrangements though. We have been asked to provide a plate of food for our child (because of allergy risks) and to wrap and provide a present (value around £5) for Father Christmas to give to our children.

Is this normal because I think it is naff. Where we lived before, the playgroup my older children attended would ask you to bring in a contribution to party food and all the food was put out on plates like at any other party and the children chose what they wanted (parents were there to help them with the right choices of course). As for the present, the playgroup would buy each child something. It was always a book which they bought very cheaply from a book catalogue, getting them extremely cheaply because it was a bulk order. I know a book isn't the most exciting thing to every child, and sometimes my childrn didn't like their choice of book, but at least it meant everyone got the same sort of thing and the playgroup liked it because it was vaguely educational. I know it didn't cost them much as I was the treasurer of the playgroup.

When I was told I had to provide a present for ds3, I was less than impressed because I could see the pitfalls. I am having difficulty thinking of anything for him anyway as he is the youngest of 4, so I would have to use up one of my few ideas for the playgroup to give him. Plus £5 is a lot of money as far as I am concerned. I eventually picked a bath toy I had bought for about £2 but which looks more exciting than the amount spent suggests. I know you are thinking why not just buy him a little book such as the old playgroup might provide, but can you imagine my child getting a book when someone else's child gets a shiny new car or something more exciting? Before you think I am poo-pooing books, remember my ds3 is only 2. He is bound to be more attracted to a shiny toy than a book.

Anyway, it is all immaterial as ds3 is ill and although he could manage a party, I don't want him coming into contact with other children and maybe catching something worse off them. He doesn't know about the party and even if he did, is not the sort of child who would want to meet "Father Christmas" (he is very shy) so I am saved the bother of making up a plate of party food for one, or using up one of my few present ideas.

Sorry rant over. Feeling rather stressed with all the preparations for Christmas. I just wanted to know if this playgroup's arrangements are normal and the old playgroup was unusual, or is it the other way around?

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laughinglil · 14/12/2005 11:34

at toddler group yesterday it started as normal.. then all the kids got to make christmas hats and colour in cards. they then placed tables out and all the kids sat round and had juice and nibbles like cakes and biscuits whilst christmas carols played in the background. They were then told the story of jesus.... (shortened version obviously)
after playing some more father christmas came in and gave all of the children a present (this was a book) tbh they spent a fortune on it and they only ask you to give a voluntery 50p . I gave £2 but I will give more next time because the books alone were worth more than that.
It was excellent a real treat that was completly unexpected.

Miriam2 · 14/12/2005 11:34

They all seem to do it differently, don't they, but this is my experience. A small present is provided (it's pre-school, so colouring book and crayons, for instance- all very similar) and food is provided, not particularly nutritious but hey, it's Christmas and it's only a mid- morning snack not a meal (eg, few crisps, little biscuits, raisins or grapes and juice box- with attention paid to any allergies obviously) All was provided free -even the session fee(!!!) -and a magician. And the plygroup is very skint! Very low key but they all loved it. (No parents attend unless helping with the food- there is a show the week before that they attend as a rule)

WigWamBam · 14/12/2005 11:37

The playgroup that dd went to used to do as your old one did - everyone brought food that the children then helped themselves to, and the playgroup bought each child a small present from money that they had saved from the entrance fees through the year. There was a different present for each age group, things like little books and lift-out jigsaw puzzles that they managed to get cheap from a warehouse. Santa (one of the leaders' grandsons!) would give the presents out by age group.

I'd feel like you - having to take your own present and plate of food feels like cheating the child somehow. They used to do this at dd's Tumble Tots parties, and although they always stipulated a price limit, lots of the parents were very competitive and went above the limit, so there were always some very disappointed children.

serenitysaysHoHoHo · 14/12/2005 11:44

Do you mean playgroup like mother and toddlers where you stay or playgroup where you leave them?

I go to two, who do things completely differently.

Last weeks one was the M&T group connected to a school. It's quite small, we all know each other well and we all bring a 'party dish' (I was on sausage rolls!) and the kids get given a pressie by Father Christmas, played by one of the Dads.

Tomorrows one is bigger, it's held in a church hall and has a bigger parent base. We pay extra for it and the committee organise food and also a professional entertainer. The kids still get pressie from Father Christmas, but like your party these are provided by the parents (up to £4 for us)

So, I wouldn't say either of your playgroups was unusual tbh!

Can I just say that I must be mad because not only am I going to two of the damn things (parties that is), but I seem to have ended up helping to set up and run them too......?! Am I just soft??

This has taken so long to type thanks to DD, that I've probably Xposted with 3 zillion people and it's totally irrelevant now.

kleist · 14/12/2005 11:48

Sounds a bit mean, LM. Dd goes to a playgroup in a church hall which is far from wealthy but they didn't ask for a thing. There was a bouncy castle, music, food, Santa, it was lovely.

ItllBeLonelymumThisChristmas · 14/12/2005 11:49

I mean playgroup as in pre-school where you leave them.

I meant to say that both the present and the venue (sometimes it was held in the leisure centre and the soft play equipment was hired) all came out of playgourp funds and no the playgroup wasn't wealthy, but it wasn't much money in the scale of things. The only contribution the parents made was the food, and we stayed because it was always held after the official playgroup term had finished.

I just feel if you had to provide your own food and present at a party, would you be so keen to go? It just seems mean to me.

oh dear, ds3 is now saying he wants to go to playgroup! But he doesn't know about the party, so I am going to hold out. Bah humbug!

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handlemecarefully · 14/12/2005 12:00

Really? Most children attending Play group are by definition pre-schoolers and I haven't noticed them comparing and sizing up each others gifts! Personally I think they are a bit young to notice (and I have been to 2 parties so far where we wered asked to take gifts for our own children - dd (3 yrs) was far too interested in her own present (under a tenner) to compare and contrast, as was ds (19 months)

handlemecarefully · 14/12/2005 12:04

We had a lovely playgroup party btw. I took a food contribution (and didn't loose much sleep about it ), and presents for my two. We had an appropriate Christmas themed craft activity. Father Christmas handed my two presents that I had previously left in his sack, and we had some interesting games involving a full size parachute!

I do agree that it seems odd to have to bring your child a full plate of food for themselves, rather than bringing food in to be generally shared. We have an insulin diabetic child at our playgroup and his mum just monitored what he ate out of the food available.

hana · 14/12/2005 12:08

at my daughter's preschool parents are asked to provide a small present for their child (value up to £3) I don't think she would notice what others get - we have all been asked to bring something from a given list of food

ItllBeLonelymumThisChristmas · 14/12/2005 12:26

Well I chose a present that I knew would keep ds3's attention as he loves bath toys, but i did rather resent having to give up the present for playgroup to give to him and I am very glad now that it can go back with his other meagre supply of stocking toys: his stocking still looks incredibly thin but I can't think of anything else to get him.

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COPPERfeelunderSantasTOP · 14/12/2005 12:50

At ds2's playgroup the staff write a list of what food is needed and parents sign up to bring one or two of the items, eg a bottle of squash, a plate of sandwiches etc.These are then shared between all the children.
Father Christmas brings each child a small present which comes out of the playgroup funds.

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