How insulting, stupid and patronising is this?

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In my local town there is such a thing as a "Man-Creche" where husbands/partners/boyfriends can be left so he can drink soft bevergaes, watch widescreen tv or play on a playstation until his partner gets back from traipsing round doing the Christmas shopping.

I mean.

Or is it just me?

Not entirely sure why this is insulting, stupid and patronising...

only problem is, if your man's in the creche, who carries the bags?

So what's the deal: is it really just for men? What would happen if a knackered female spouse needed a bit of creching? Would they throw her out? I think this needs testing.

Are you "allowed" to breastfeed in there do you think?

OMG men really have got it sorted...not only have they managed to swing it so that they get to play computer games, fill their faces and generally indulge themselves while we do all the shopping, but we are all getting our knickers in a twist about whether it's patronising!! Any man who thinks it's patronising can give it a miss and come carry the shopping instead..... I suspect the majority would suddenly forget about their wounded dignity!

Maybe we could take this amazing new idea further... how about "man-kennels" where we can leave them for two weeks a year while we go on holiday? Or a "man-listening service" in hotels so we can lock them in the room with the mini-bar and enjoy a peaceful evening without having to worry about them falling asleep on the toilet?

I thought you left the men in the kids play area with the kids? Just popped back from the serious clothes shopping when the baby needed a feed. Did I do it wrong then?

erm what's the point? If you are so incapable of shopping that you need your dh with you then don;t you need them WITH YOU and not in a creche? I suppose the one reason might be if you can't drive and need a lift into town and back. But the thought of being married to someone who could really think of no better way of entertaining himself for a couple of hours than going to watch tv in a shopping centre makes me shudder. book? cafe? newspaper?

sorry lost me there.

dh pops himself off to the cinema while i go traipsing around the shops. Suits both of us as I hate the interminably bored look on his face if he has to follow me into a shop.

erm, as ever, posted, then read...in fact I can see that it has its uses but I'm definitely with whoever said that the real problem is the name. It just infantilises men, makes out that they are somehow incapable of making an adult choice in the domestic sphere. that's women's stuff that is. they just bumble along and do what they are told and if they;re lucky they can go and play.

and your point is ? hativity

pmsl!! at 'grouting'

TO ALL WOMEN EVERYWHERE. From my DH.

Men hate being dragged round the shops by their other half. They get dragged round 100 shops, asked do I look fat in this 800 times, then get dragged back to the first shop they went in so she can buy the first outfit she tried on. And all the outfits looked the same anyway.

Christmas is worse because you are asked questions like do you think the nephew of my mothers cousins best mates boyfriends dog walker would like a snow globe. Men don't care what presents you buy for people they a) don't like, b) don't know, and they especially don't want to waste six Saturdays in a row piling up this stuff.

Face it - your shopping obsession is boring and it's not a couply moment they want to share and they only do it so they'll get sex, so why not give them a place to go to be rescued from you and your pointless shopping obsession? Why can't you just get everything over the internet anyway? You can plan what to get and it is delivered hassle free to your door.

Calling it a man-creche, well, it's lighthearted. It seems all the fun has been sucked out of existance by the pc-must-analyse-everything brigade! It isn't meant to imply men ACTUALY require babysitting!! you'd have to be dim to assume that! It. Is. A. Joke. You are still allowed to make them. In the pre-pcmental days, we'd have seen the joke and smiled to ourselves, now we want to wring our hands and cry but what is the meaning. Bollards.

I love this thread. BTW shopping can be that hideous for women too. Can I have a chick-creche please? With Bailey's on tap and Desperate Housewives on a loop.

Ha ha Pruni, quite. I'd add white wine on a drip and a hotline to a cab company who would come and get your bags and then let you pour yourself in when you were nice and, ahem, relaxed.

XmasPud^pence...stick his dummy back in!

i hate shopping. my dh loves shopping. i hate town, all the people, all the whinging moaning crying kids, the queues. who likes this - i cant get my head around it.

i hate food shopping too, i detest it infact for much the same reasons as above.

i dislike the man creche thing simply becuase it implies that all men should sit and do fuck all whilst women go shopping.

haven't they got a life, why cant they say...no i hate it - you do it take my credit card - see you in 2 hours.

are men really this fking weak and feeble soppy load of trouts?

and some things should have both opinions. things like stuff for the house. why do other peoples partners not car how the house they live in looks? dont they live there? have they not got an opinion, do women really like men who dont give an opinion on anything and who only say yes to get a fuck?

I think most men would admit that they think the whole shopping thing is dull dull dull...not all men of course but most!! They'll agree to pretty much anything in shopping/decorating terms as long as it isn't outlandish... personally I don't think it's to get sex, I think it's because they don't care about that sort of thing, their minds are elsewhere. It may not be fashionable but men and women are actually different!! My DH is highly intelligent, witty, considerate, a great father... but mention new lounge curtains or Grandma's birthday and he starts to look distinctly green about the gills!! He thought the man-creche idea was funny but I don't think he'd set foot in one. If he did he'd probably try and persuade the other inmates to decamp to the nearest pub.

I'm with custy. If - as a bloke - you don't like shopping don't go. And - as a woman - don't marry someone too pathetic not to say no. And if your dh doesn;t like shopping why live up to some awful stereo type of nagging woman forcing husband to do something against his will. Just go without him. I just can't get my head round shopping en famille. or asking my dh if I my bum looks fat in these trousers. my idea of hell. I even let DH choose furniture on his own. It's a piece of wood. It doesn;t matter that much.