Am I a rotten mum?

[theBomperandtheIvy]

My Dd2 is 20 months, and I love her to bits. She wasn't planned and I was just about to get back a bit of freedom as dd1 was just about to start school, when she was born. I don't resent her for one minute but I am longing for a bit of freedom again. Haven't had any since ds was born - he is now 8. Is this awful of me? I have already put her name down for a nursery, she can start the term after she is 2yrs and 9 months, which basically means January 2007. When I have told people I have done this, they kind of laugh at me and say 'Can't wait to get rid of her ey?'. And to be honest - no I can't wait for a couple of hours a day to myself. Does that make me evil? I hope not. Sorry for long rambling post, but just needed to get it off my chest.

No. Of course not!

Thank you.

Crikey, no - you're normal!!! I wnet back to work (p/t) when they were both 6 months. Not for everyone, I know, but the time away from them was important to me. Does that sound awful?
We are completely on our own here, with no family to help out, so maybe I would have felt differently if I'd had the help and a bolt-hole.

Gawd no! I've been on mat leave for the last 8 months (going back 3days/week next week ) and dd has still been packed off to nursery throughout this period.

I think you are completely normal to be honest. I think that by having that break it makes you a better parent and your dd will be having fun. Everyone is happy
I used to crave time for me when mine were smaller (there is 19 months between ds and dd). As soon as either of them could go to playgroup they went and I honestly don't feel bad about it and neither should you.

Don't be silly! Of course you aren't bad for wanting some time to yourself. I worship my kids, but my god, I love time to myself.

You are perfectly normal! Mine have both been in Nursery since they were each about 10 months, 5.5 & nearly 3 now. AND I made sure that they were both in at the same time for at least 1 day. It's important to get some free time, even if it's to get the ironing done without a small person tugging on the lead.

Are you kidding? With three kids you are worrying about whether it is OK to get some time to yourself?

Honestly, you are entirely sane and you deserve this time. Don't let 'funny' comments upset you.

Thanks everyone. You've made me feel much better. I knew the MN Mums wouldn't let me down!!

I have childminded several children whose mummies just needed some well-deserved time out (anything from a few hours or even, God forbid, a whole day sometimes. Shock horror!!) It is amazing how many other mums didn't approve!! I wish this is something I had thought of when my own were little, I think I would have jumped at the chance of some "me" time. Even my dh admitted that, however stressful his job was, getting away from his children and home was bliss!

Ds2 goes to pre-school for a couple of mornings a week and yes I look forward to every single one of those mornings of freedom.

Not at all! She'll have a wonderful time and you'll have a break. It's a win win situation, IMO.

Go for it - BomperIvy. I work part-time (home by 3:30pm) but dd is in full-time nursery and I only collect her at 5:30pm. This daily 2 hour me-time is not to sit around, but to do chores - dinner, household paper work, tidying, ok, mumsnet . But it is my lifeline to sanity and ensures when dd gets home, all my chores are out of the way and I can concentrate 100% on her (she demands that level of attention anyway) - which puts me in a better mood to deal with the usual toddler shennaggins.

You most definitely deserve the break. You have soldiered on for long enough

No!!! Do it if you need it - it will help you no end.

I have three and by the time my twins start next September I'll have been mum to pre-school children for 8 years. I love them all to bits too but I am SO looking forward to some breathing space. People say to me 'you won't know what to do with yourself'. How little they really understand