2nd baby?? and DD starting school.........

[quackers]

Could I have some honest opinions PLS! about what you would do in my situation...
Have 3 yr old DD, she will start school next Sept but will be the youngest (31st August baby!!!). She would adore a sibling and we have lost 2 this year. She knew about the first because I had a bump.
Since them she is obsessed about brothers and sisters! However, if we conceived now, it would coincide with her starting school. Do we risk having a baby the same month or put it off for a couple of months???? Hope it doesn't sound selfish but we are desperate to try again ASAP!!!
Tx allxx

We had dd who was due mid August with ds due to start new school(preschool)on 28th August. In the event she was 10 days late and I went in to be induced so she arrived the day before he started. Have to admit it was not ideal. I missed out on that first day and meeting the other mums that first week, although I did manage to do the school run a week later.

If you can organise it so that you have plenty of help and don't have to do the school runs etc yourself all the time then it would probably be ok. ds was fine with having his new sister and was so proud of her but it took a lot of juggling to get him there on time once I was having to do it on my own. He had had a lot of upheaval that year anyway so it gave him something positive to focus on.

tbh I would not have planned it that way but you cannot always control these things and you muddle through the logistics somehow. Given your circumstances I think I would be tempted to give it a go.

hth

No experience of your exact situation but we conceived ds2 when we knew it would coincide with potty training - moving to a new bed - toddler tantrums etc...... I know it is not the same as a definite date of school but really if you want to try again I think you should go for it - children are very adaptable and it will never be the 'right' time - go for it!!

Good luck

I agree with Hughsie. Given that you can never really 'plan' these things perfectly and that it is never really the 'right time', just go for it, relax, and good luck!

Oh thankyou for your replies all! I'm really encouraged by that! When is it ever the best time and tbh what will be will be! If I do then then we'll be very happy and so will dd!

DD started school this September and DS was due 3 weeks later but in the event turned up after a week. I was pretty worried how she would cope with two major things in one month but she has been overall really good. She loves her brother dearly and didn't seem phased by me being in hospital for 4 days after an emergency c/section.She has settled really well into school,partly due I think to having gone to the school nursery and the school doing a few sessions in the summer. I asked her the other day if she remembered what it was like before her brother, she said she did, that it was lonely and she liked it much more now. Good luck

Quacks, lets hope we are both in this dilemma next Sept! I am very keen to get pg again asap. Probably after one cycle, if I get the go-ahead, we shall be trying to conceive. So that would hopefully mean a baby next Aug/Sept. I think the enormous advantages of having a sibling and the lifelong benefit of having one far outweigh any problems that occur in the early days. Young children adapt quickly aso I wouldnt forsee any long term issues arising from a new baby coinciding with starting school. On a practical level yes you'll need tons of help but we want another baby, you and me both, and the sooner the better. Go for it!

quackers i have worked out the same thing(if i got pregnant now it would coincide with dd starting school) then i am probably getting married next year so don't want to pregnant then, i think i could go on forever trying to time it and still don't know what to do! However i think if it feels so right for you NOW then go for it! I think the important thing for timing is when you feel ready

Thanks Bunny! Hi Angeliz, yep just go for it, you just never know what's round the corner, I've concluded!!! Good luck Angeliz!
Bunny, here's praying for good news for us in the next couple of months.xxxxxx