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Dumped cause "I need someone i can love" WTF does that mean??

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Tamba · 08/12/2005 20:20

My poor sisters boyfriend said that to her

Shes 19 and travels every weekend to see him in London. They have been together about 6 months.

Shes going to see him tomorrow to see if he will change his mind...

WTF does "i need someone i can love mean" ??

My poor sister - i dont know what to say to her!

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expatinscotland · 08/12/2005 20:21

It means he's a clingy, insecure dick smack.

stitch · 08/12/2005 20:22

tell her to save her train fare. he is a useless git who doesnt deserve such loyalty, let alone love.

bsg · 08/12/2005 20:22

Maybe that he doesnt love her. Not being horrible. If she is the one travelling to see him every weekend then it is a bit one sided. Have you met him? Is he worth worrying about?

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Tamba · 08/12/2005 20:23

She wants to borrow some nice clothes from me to try and impress him - I know it wont work and hes a waste of space but she loves him.

I can see tears coming! Bless her.

Shes really upset.

He never travels to see her, he thinks where we live is too risky to travel too (Bham)

Men are such arseholes at times!

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Tamba · 08/12/2005 20:24

Never met him or anything, i have no idea what hes like but she seems to think alot of him.

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MistleToo · 08/12/2005 20:25

sorry to be harsh but I think it means he doesn't love her.

I'd tell her not to waste her time, find someone who can love her.

CliffRichardSucksEggsinHell · 08/12/2005 20:25

First love? She'll get over it, she'll become stronger as a result and she'll move on. All you can do is to be there for her and help pick up the pieces. It happens to us all sooner or later, but we've all come through it and out the other side.

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Tamba · 08/12/2005 20:27

I know...

I hate the thought of her travelling all the way there, dressed up nicely, to be turned away and have to travel home again...

(also being over protective and worry a about her getting stranded, having nowhere to stay etc etc )

I guess its a lesson we all have to go through but its hard watching someone you care about making them.

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followthestarlover · 08/12/2005 20:28

show her this thread! he sounds like a complete prick..

i have been there, driving 2 hours every weekend for months to visit someone who finally dumped me to be with the girl he'd been seeing behind my back because she "lived nearer"
fuckwit

doesn't stop it hurting though... and of course she is devastated. but she can do much better!

CliffRichardSucksEggsinHell · 08/12/2005 20:31

My dh used to drive to Cardiff every weekend to see this girl that was seeing other blokes during the week (he suspected but never asked her). She was his first love. She probably cheated on him loads of times, but it finally ended when she visited him for a change and was caught by his friends snogging his brother!

He was devastated by the break-up and sometimes I feel that I still live in the shadow of this girl, who was a complete bitch but 'cool' in his words!

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Tamba · 08/12/2005 20:35

I feel like going to London and having ago at him... but i cant cause in reality relationships end and people move on, its part of growing up i guess..

Have visions of her getting there and having to come home in tears

She ought to not go and see if he misses her, or go out and have fun instead...

Ive never been an over protective sister before! I just hate seeing her hurt

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followthestarlover · 08/12/2005 20:38

oh tamba! my best friend flew to AUSTRALIA to try and mend stuff with her girlfriend! just be glad this is only london

NomDePlumPudding · 08/12/2005 20:39

He'll think you're a nutter. Chances are that this lad had been seeing other people in the 6 months your sister and he have been 'together'. I suspect he just doesn't see as a serious thing, it was a bit of fun for him, but she's invested more into it. I don't see him as a 'bastard', tbh.

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Tamba · 08/12/2005 20:42

I dont know him so dont know whether he is a bastard or not

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LadyTophamInAChristmasHatt · 08/12/2005 20:45

He doesn't want to travle to B'ham because it's too risky.

Sound like a wet fart to me, what a great big sissy!

elastamum · 08/12/2005 21:06

He sounds a bit spineless I think that he doesnt love her and is trying to give her the push in a round about sort of way. Tell her she can to a lot better and invite her round for a few glasses of wine and a movie instead

OhlittletownofEIDSVOLD · 08/12/2005 21:58

I would tell her to forget it - he is obviously not interested and she needs to retain her dignity and self worth rather than trying to get him to change his mind - unfortunately we can't make people love us - sad as it is....

Can you not arrange a day /night out with her instead??

expatinscotland · 08/12/2005 22:01

What the hell is 'risky' about B'ham? It's not fking Basra!

merrybelly · 08/12/2005 22:23

usually means:

"I need someone i can feel bigger than"
"I need someone i can patronise"
"I need someone i can not be challenged by"
"I need someone i can easy cos i'm lazy"

poor woman to feel so rough about him though. i hope it passes and leaves her feeling whole, soon.

merrybelly · 08/12/2005 22:24

mmm, tired need my bed, meant:

"I need someone easy cos i'm lazy"

merrymarchhare · 08/12/2005 22:24

means he is a knob.

ImdreadinganAUTIExmas · 08/12/2005 22:24

It means 'I'm an immature tosser and I want to shag around".

GoodKingWestCountryLass · 08/12/2005 22:39

I think what it means is he does not love her

She is 19 and he is a twat, she should save her money and go out on the razz with her mates!

acnebride · 08/12/2005 22:43

But seeing him and hearing the crapness face to face is prob the best cure. otherwise she might hang on for months.

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