Where does my BIL stand....

[3GirlsMum]

His wife (who he is separated from) today attempted to commit suicide. She is currently in hospital having had her stomach pumped. She has had various problems with depression and I personally think (as do others) that she has a lot of psychological problems.

Does anyone know if Social Services would automatically be contacted in a situation like this. My BIL has a daughter with her who lives with her mum and she also has another daughter from a previous marriage that lives with her.

Any advice would be much appreciated.

Thanks x

Social Services wouldn't automatically be contacted, unless there was immediate concern about the welfare of the children. Presumably they are with your BIL at the moment? If your BIL's wife already has a named social worker for some reason, then the nurses may contact him/ her, if they know about it.

HTH

They were with my SILs mother last night. BIL needs to go into work today to get time off and as they are at school he thought this was the best option. She is only 6 and wont have been told much about what happened, luckily she wasnt there so hopefully as she is there with her older sister will not think anything untoward about staying at her nans the night.

My BIL has been worried for a while about his wifes psychological problems and is obviously concerned for the welfare of his daughter while in her care. Does anyone know what would happen should SS be contacted, some members of the family have been worried that the SS would automatically take them into care for the night whereas I would have thought they would approach their father first.

Im still trying to get over the shock that she has done this. I had awful depression so know to a certain degree how she is feeling and I feel so sorry for her, despite the things she has done to the family. She must really be at the edge to have done something like this. I feel that I would like to contact her when she comes out of hospital to see how she is but DH's feels this would be hypocritical?

Thanks x

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Hi Twinkie

Im basing my opinion on her on what I have seen no on what has happened with my BIL and her. She has hurt a lot of people and has IMO has some sort of attention deficit disorder, either that or very deep rooted psychological problems going back a long way. Ive been through divorce and separation myself so fully understand what you can through.

As for visiting her, I live 250 miles away so thats not an option, to phone her doesnt seem quite right and I am debating just sending a little "hope you feel better soon" card?

Can I just add she has been offered lots of support in the past and pushed everyone away apart from those she decided she wants around her on that particular day. I can understand where you are coming from though and by no means think you are being unfair but without going into big detail she has put the family through a lot over the years.

Will speak to my BIL about SS though as my worry is that if she has done it once she could do it again and it would be terrible for my niece to find her like that.

x