Burst into floods of tears at ds's creche today.

[dingdongmeggymooonhigh]

Oh the shame of it. Ds is just so moody, this has been going on for such a long time. I love him to bits but it's really wearing. I feel like sich a lightweight only having one child and moaning about him.

I think the frustration has been building up for a while. There isn't another child there who will make such a fuss as mine. It was the Xmas party today so there were lots of grannies there and dads (everyone seems to go there in twos to pick children up!)and he was having such a tantrum, whacking his head on the floor for no reason other than I had to take another little boy's toy off him which made the crying escalate, I could hear other mums tutting and trying to be helpful comments of "ahhh pick the poor little thing up" (which makes him worse) One granny said "God I wouldn't put up with that" It was just awful I felt like such a damn failure I looked up and could see everyone looking - you could have heard a pin drop and I just stupidly burst into tears. I picked up ds and had him under one arm screeching and another opening the door to get out.
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I think the most hurtful thing is the fact that all the carers will harp on about how great he has been, it seems as soon as I walk through the door it all starts. I don't know how I am going to face going back there.

oh meggymoo am right there with you
how old is he?
my dd1 is extremely er wilful and I am always saying to dh

There isn't another child there who will make such a fuss as mine

just so embarrassing when she won't join in at musci group or wherever
tried tumble tots twice but clearly Not For Her.

no advice right now just sympathy....

oh poor you .. what a crap day

OK here's the thing

toddlers tantrum .. they just do

you were doing the right thing by ignoring it

other people interfere .. they just do

they tend to make a difficult situation so much worse

every parent there was thinking one thing .. I'm so glad it isn't me right now

so here's what you have to do

.. go back in head held high and take the piss .. out of yourself, out of your child, out of them .. it really isn't worth obsessing about meggymoo

.. take a breather and some time for yourself .. chocolate, wine, face pack all helpful

don't worry .. its not shameful its knackering

dont worry about it, we all have days like that (see my thread re denting the fridge). have to say i am rather surprised at the parents, i myself always try to ignore such paddies cos thats the reaction i prefer when its one of mine doing it. i bet the granny was a bit different when she was the mum and had the kids full time

Ahh relief. I feel slightly better already. perhaps my reactions and sensitivity was heightened somewhat by the whole situation.

He's 18 months and I have never seen anythig like it. I have looked after many children over the years. His fits really do astound me.

aww moo , Ive had exact same moments as the one you had described. Dd just liked to have a moan a bit things and like curmudgeon said theres always some one else with an opinion. Dontya just love it when they all stare , its ok I had the same in boots queue the other day , dd kept removing everything from the shelves and I was holding on to her biuggy to(I have willfull 2yr old) and she kept running off as I was trying to pay and I also got all the tut tut type stares. I just said at top of voice "Im just loving all this xmas cheer" !!!! whilst givgin all of them the evils!!!

They were probably quietly hoping their kids wouldn't fuss too, the silent parents (that's what I have probably been guilty of thinking in the past) Children/toddlers all do it, it sounds like the other mum's kids just have better timing than your ds

Thank you. I'm hoping that the cringing will slowly subside as other things distract me today.

Meggymoo (that was my cat's name!) I know exactly how you feel. My dd is 3 and can sream the loudest and the longest as she did the other day at a toddler gym when a boy took some hoops from her and then she was hit on the head by a soft ball (accident). I could just feel all the other mothers looking at me and wondering how long it would take for her to shut up and what I was going to do about it. And of course the mothers that knew me and dd, probably realised the answer was forever and not a lot .

It is extremely frustrating when it is your child making the fuss and if other people offer their - unhelpful - pearls of wisdom it just makes the situation worse.

Chin up chicken and just ignore them, it will be someone elses child the next time, and I am assured, they grow out of it ... eventually.

oh poor you. what a crap morning.

((((((((((big hugs)))))))))

and lots of sympathies...

meggymoo I did this with dd1 at Music with mummy

was so embarrassed I never went back

large sympathies

Aren't all kids good for everyone apart from their Mum's. It's a sign of intelligence; although I am sure you could do without it. Do as Curmunge...says Don't let them win go back with head held high. We all have bad days and kids seem to know this and play up more.

THANKYOU!
Of course it's ridiculous to think ds is the only child who does this with such aplomb and volume, you know those days when you think everything is against you. I think it started off badly I went to post what I thought was a letter this morning only to get to the creche and the letter was in my bag - lord only knows what I put in the post box, hope it wasn't anything too important.

I think perhaps the timing thing could be true. I just have the bad luck that I never see any of the other children playing up whilst there.
Bloody hormones, am going to meet some friends this afternoon when ds wakes up and hopefully he'll be less demanding then. I'd better take a hankie just in case OOOh get me, I sound like a proper mum!

Aren't all kids good for everyone apart from their Mum's. It's a sign of intelligence; although I am sure you could do without it. Do as Curmunge...says Don't let them win go back with head held high. We all have bad days and kids seem to know this and play up more.

I feel your shame, DD has her moments. Iam good at ignoring them and diffusing the situation usually but every now and then she'll tip off in public and I can feel the pressure from the stares and whispers.
I do know that DD plays up when I'm at nursery ( I visit often) the carers know this happens and I'll bet they will be concernedabout how the other parents reactions affected you.

As for the granny, for all you know she is one of the evilMIL's discussed here so often, and her DIL would be mortified if she knew this had happened. Dont worry about her she's from another generation they dont get how it works today (coal holes disapeared with fitted carpet and central heating)

Oh please don't feel bad I know exactly how you feel - DS has just started throwing the hugest tantrums and screamed his head of all the way around Tesco yesterday - didn't want to go in the trolley, throwing food out of the trolley etc. Lots of people with well beaved children looking on "mummy why is that baby crying so much" asked one little girl - wish I bloody knew He's also started doing all sorts in the house - remote control down the loo, paint on the carpet, mummy's MAC make up in the kitchen bin. I'm honestly getting afraid to take him anywhere ! I would have done the same as you I'm afraid

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This happens to me regularly. You are not alone. My ds's wait till I get there and then bawl their little eyes out whilst all the other kids are delighted to see their mummies!