Non-Cooking DHs - shouldn't they just be grateful you bothered??

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I love DH to bits, but he's not the best cook in the world and I'm home at 3.30/he's home after 6.30, so I just get on with it, I really don't mind, in fact I enjoy cooking.

I don't expect compliments, just a thank you will do.

I shouldn't be irritated, but it really gets my back up when I've put the plate in front of him and he says "Is it my imagination, or is there too much rice on this plate? Well don't sodding well eat it then!

Oh dear, I wouldn't be too pleased with that sort of comment.

My DH just isn't interested in doing cooking, and when he does, it takes forever for him to cook anything.

But at least he's grateful when I cook, and although he does say "that didn't really work" or "I don't really like that", he never says worse, and his complaints are generally quite constructive. And he's often really positive.

ooo makes my blood boil it does !! Your DH and my DP must have been separated at birth.

I'd be tempted to say "Is it my imagination or did I marry an ungrateful wretch who can bloody well cook his own dinner in future" in a lighthearted I will stab you if you try that again tone of voice

dp wouldn't dare say anything like that to me because he'd be too scared in case I said "right you do it then". sometimes I'll say that I didn't really like something and he'll still polish it off.

Would he cook, given the chance?

lol, I like that one HM

I'd have tipped it over his head.

I'm with WWW. Maybe there should be rice on his head, instead?

Excellent, Hunker! if only I'd been quick-witted enough to think of that!

His "cooking" is limited to heating up soup / pasta/mince/dolmio sauce on top / casserole - but I don't count the last one as his last attempt at this, years ago, he forgot to put the oven on, so 3 hours later, raw chicken.

Rice on the head next time, good idea!

My husband asks infuriating questions like "Did you cook it in butter?" "Did you forget to add salt?" etc. He's a better cook than I am. But my son always says "What's for dinner?" and always answers "Yuk" when I tell him. Rubbish start to a meal isn't it BBB? I try and drink a few glasses of wine whilst cooking to numb the pain.

Ah, I'm afraid my DS1 gets sent down from table if he does any emphatic "yuk" noises. I might well do the same to DH if he was ever that rude!

He does get a bit twitchy about me undercooking meat. I like beef and lamb quite rare, and have to massively overcook his lamb so he'll eat it. And he's really twitchy about chicken, it needs to be entirely overdone, but that's ok. I do get exasperated at him "checking" things, but I do sometimes get it wrong, so he's not really unreasonable. And he isn't rude about it all.

my xh ALWAYS used to make a negative comments about everything I cooked even when it was really good. When he cooked he always commented on how great it was even if it was awful. USed to REALLY upset me cos I'm a pretty good cook. My dad was really rude to my mum about her cooking, her cooking got worse and worse as a result. Now her cooking is inedible, its become a joke!

My DH really isn't brave enough to risk any comments like that... think he knows he would be getting very hungry in the weeks that followed!!!!

"yuk" is a banned word in our house! Not really relevant to the thread as dh does all the cooking, but he always tells the kids: "My food is not "yuk". You may not like it, but that is your problem, not the food's"

I always say thank you and tell him his food is really nice when he cooks - if ever it isn't (which is very rare) I don't say anything, but will agree with him if he comments that it isn't so good. It works both ways - he compliments me on my bread so we are all happy. If I was the cook I would be really irritated by criticisms.

A subject close to my heart!

Granted my DH does eat out with work a lot but what cheeses me off is when I prepare a meal, he comes home says he is full (late lunch blah blah blah) and then proceeds to scoff crisps and biscuit and crap!!!!!!!

He smokes, drinks a bit too much, very eats a fruit or fresh veg and he is in his 30s so he needs to start looking after himself.

Yes, they should be grateful!!!!