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Do you think this is a bit mean?

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Socci · 06/12/2005 14:08

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MaddhurJaffrey · 06/12/2005 14:09

but he si ther int eh afternoon?

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Socci · 06/12/2005 14:10

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MaddhurJaffrey · 06/12/2005 14:12

so hell go to worka dt when adn return when?

cranberryjampots · 06/12/2005 14:14

take her and cake into his office and get him to do it at work

seriously, is he able to come home before going to the works do?

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Socci · 06/12/2005 14:19

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Easy · 06/12/2005 14:20

You know, given your dd's situation, I think I'd be pretty angry with him.

Does he REALLY have to go to the work's do, or is it just that he fancies having a drink on his boss?

jinglinggoblin · 06/12/2005 14:21

cant he join works do after her party? dp is going to have to do that cos ds3s xmas play (he is 18months!) is on the same day as his do. they are starting at 12, play is at 4 but im sure he will still have time to get legless.

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Socci · 06/12/2005 14:22

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cranberryjampots · 06/12/2005 14:22

surely he can be a little bit late for the works do and spend 15 mins with dd? Encourage him to have a shower/wash hair in the morning, he wont really have to shave surely so what else do men do apart from crap?

handlemecarefully · 06/12/2005 14:24

I think his priorities are all wrong!

shimmy21 · 06/12/2005 14:25

Would your dd know the difference if you did the cake the evening before? I know that you would know the difference but how much would it really make to her if you cheated a bit with the day? I've got friends whose ds's birthday was on a different day each year to fit in with family plans. It was only when he reached the age of 6 or 7 that he understood enough about calendars to care.

foundintransleightion · 06/12/2005 14:34

Agree with hmc. Why on earth can't he join the work do late?
I'd be very indeed if this was my dh.

CliffRichardSucksEggsinHell · 06/12/2005 14:35

Can he not join them later? Does he have to go for the whole hog? If this happened to me, I would tell dh that he could perhaps meet them at 8pm, after he has sung Happy Birthday to his daughter and watched her open her presents.

Think it is pretty disgusting that he refuses to make any allowances for his daughter's birthday. I would tell him to find somewhere else to sleep too that night, as he'd be locked out!

Seriously though, don't put up with this, he is being a selfish git at the cost of your daughter!

Easy · 06/12/2005 14:45

Socci, in that case I would be absolutely appalled.

This is unforgivable, and if it was MY dh (who hates works xmas parties anyway), he would not be given the option.

Bloody hell, I'm really angry at your dh

NomDePlumPudding · 06/12/2005 14:49

Socci, I'd be pretty mad with him, TBH. I think I'd try to negotiate a compromse with him if it were my DH. Maybe he could join the party later on ? You and he could do the birthday thing with dd1 and then he could go out later when she's in bed ? That's generally what we do if something like this crops up at my house, instead of meeting at 7.30, DH will meet up at 8.30 or 9pm, it's no big deal.

NomDePlumPudding · 06/12/2005 14:49

Just seen that I've given the same advice as Cliff. Sorry to duplicate, I only read the first post.

Glitterygook · 06/12/2005 14:51

Agree with Cliff and my compromise would be that he's at home for her treats and can meet the others later. I mean, your dd probably goes to bed between 7 and 8 so he'd hardly be that late would he?!

beejay · 06/12/2005 14:54

Sorry I don't think it's that big a deal! I missed my dd's birthday cos i had to go away for work-- came back the next day with cake, present etc and she was fine. It meant that she got to celebrate two days in a row and honestly she didn't mind a bit

beejay · 06/12/2005 14:54

Sorry I don't think it's that big a deal! I missed my dd's birthday cos i had to go away for work-- came back the next day with cake, present etc and she was fine. It meant that she got to celebrate two days in a row and honestly she didn't mind a bit

Easy · 06/12/2005 15:13

but beejay, Socci's dd is only just able to understand the idea of her birthday for the first time. In this (slightly special) situation I think a parent should make an extra effort to make that one day the special one.

Does dh not appreciate the advances your dd has made socci?

merrymarchhare · 06/12/2005 15:20

My DH is not going to his works do because we have been invited to his nephews birthday on the same day. I cant imagine what Id feel like if he wasnt going to be at DSs.

Honestly though, if hes vowed to never do it again, youre going to have to let it go as not to spoil your daughters birthday altogether.

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Socci · 06/12/2005 19:50

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merrySOAPBOXingday · 06/12/2005 20:01

Socci - how old is DD? Won't she be in bed in the evening anyway?

Can't DH come home from work 1/2 hour early and do cake and birthday tea and then go to the party?

I've been lucky if my DH has been in the same country as the children on their birthday's never mind at home for birthday tea

He has always been around for thier parties though, which tend to be at the weekend! Is your DD having a party at the weekend or is that a possibility??

TheFish · 06/12/2005 20:01

ditto soapy

merrySOAPBOXingday · 06/12/2005 20:02

Oh stray apostrophe alert