41 weeks PG and family won't stop calling

[Pennies]

The title says it all really. They ring every day and it is doing my head in. This happened with DD1 and I told them that it was annoying but here they are, just over a year later doing exactly the same thing, despite me asking them to leave me alone. I know they're worried about me and stuff but it's not as if I'll call them up in a few weeks time and say 'Guys you'll never guess what happened last week, I had a baby" - of COURSE I'm going to tell them when things start. having them call me each day to see what's happening is just pointless IMO. It also makes me feel under huge pressure to produce, and I've got no control over that.

Anyway I sent an email in the small hours to this effect and have had a pretty p'd off reaction (along the lines of "be like that then"). Am I being selfish?

Nothin' lilly-livered about your e-mail, LOL...

Try it... start with the phones. Update your recorded message so that it's clear you will update it as soon as there's any news, and that people should call frequently to check, LOL... and then... JUST TURN IT ON !

We updated ours whilst at the hossie, and also when dd was born, and then when she came out of SCBU, and then when we got home, and then one week later when we thought we'd better say hello to everyone, LOL... people LOVED getting the update and neither party needed the conversation, which, let's face it, is never going to be at a convenient time !

Go on.... blame me !

You have my deepest sympathy, Pennies

I remember my mother-in-law actually phoning and saying "I wish you would hurry up - I can't sleep". I really gritted my teeth as I replied "neither can I".

Why do they do it?

I sometimes switched the phone off for days (nine days overdue) but at other times I had a "code" for people I actually wanted to speak to - would that work? My "welcome" callers used to let it ring twice then hang up before ringing back

I got woken up by a family member calling to wish me "moral support" when I was about a week late.

She said, "And how are you?" I mumbled, "Asleep!" and she said "Oh, sorry, should I call back then, oh really sorry to have..." I said, "Yes, thanks", hung up and went back to sleep. I remember thinking that I'd wake myself up too much to get back to sleep if I got cross and promised myself a good swear when I woke up later that day It was about 11am, but I had horrendous insomnia and was utterly shattered when I was overdue, so loads of sympathy for that.

Sorry you've had a crappy response from your family - it'll all be forgotten when the baby's here though - good luck with everything!

Your being woken up is nothing compared to dw, sneaky:

c-section at 5:35. Baby in NICU. Anaesthetic wearing off, some feeling in legs coming back etc... dw on 1 to 1 nursing cos incase BP goes mad, still catheterised etc. etc. ... at 2 AM her uncle phones, intimidates the reception / sister "I'm her consultant ob" (no your not) and gets put through to the room to, erm, see how we all are... I mean WTF ?????