Am I being petty and childish with this?

[AmIBeingPetty]

I had a terrible night with dd2 last night, for some reason she refused to go to bed point blank, it ended with me frogmarching her at 2am to her bedroom whilst she was crying, i picked her up gave her a bear hug, put her in her bed and put barney on, when I got back to bed I broke down crying, all I could think of was the way I had frogmarched her(holding her hand and marching her with arm held quite high, but not high enough to hurt) back to her bedroom, i then laid crying till i fell asleep, she woke at 7am this morning and greeted me with a big kiss and cuddle whilst telling me 'I'm the best mummy in the world'.

Anyway, I have woken with a stonking headache, and feel terribly terribly sick, I have sooooooooooooooooooooooo much to do and don't feel like it really, but dh is in bed sleeping off a hangover, he says he'll get up before lunch and IF he feels like it he will help me this afternoon.

I am sat here thinking of what i could get done but really bedgrudge the fact that i am feeling ill through no fault of my own and he is hungover but I am the one that has to do all the housework, on top of that I have a child with molluscum and another with a cold that has gone to her stomach and she keeps being sick when she coughs.

AM I being petty, sat here thinking, if he isn't, why should I do housework?

No you're not being petty.

If I were you, I'd start throwing things.

Now that's petty.

I must be petty too then because I would also be thinking the same as you. Sod the housework.

IF and when he graces me with his presence, and IF he decided to help, I may give him the task of cleaning out the guinea pigs :D that'll serve him right.

Not a direct answer to your q, but dh and I tend to negotiate these things out in advance? So next weekend for example I am fairly sure I won't be up for an early start on Sunday (due to the London meet-up), so Dh will have Saturday morning to himself whilst I have the children. Chore stuff over the weekend we try and share, but actually I try to do the minimum at the weekend - most housework is done during the week with a view to keeping the weekend as free for fun stuff as feasible.

Now that's when my childishness kicks in, I'm afraid. If he refused I think I would probably tip the contents of the cage (minus the guinea pigs ) over his side of the bed.

Never mind IF he graces you with his presence; if I were you I'd have dragged him out of bed hours ago. Bugger him sleeping until he feels like getting out of bed, and then helping you if he feels like it; you have ill children and he needs to be helping you to get on with things. He's acting like a child and not a husband and I think he needs to know that this is not acceptable.

Can I just say I don't see how else you could have dealt with a child apart from frogmarch them back to bed .. so I wouldn't feel guilty in the slightest (I wouldn't have put Barney on tbh but I wasn't there at 2am was I?)

As for housework .. ignore it, when he gets up go back to bed and ask him to do what needs doing .. the rest can wait

Leave it all for him to do when he does eventually get up.