Will dilemma what would be fair to dp?

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We've been living together for 6 years, I have three children dp has none. I have a house in my name only which we live in bought since we've been living together and it has more than doubled in value. Dp has done a lot of work to it. We are about to build another house in the garden so will take out a mortgage to pay for it, we hope it will be sold at some point to make a profit.

I should write my will, dp refuses to agree to me leaving him anything in it so all would be divided equally between my children.

What should I do with regard to the will to be fair? If I die he will disappear off into the sunset with a bin bag of his bits and pieces.

Actually, I'm quite shocked by that. I thought the law would see him to have contributed - whether by effort on the house, or to household bills - and take that into consideration.

On the will question - could you leave him something in some kind of trust? Sounds mad for an adult, but where he can't just give away the money, yet has access to it if he needs it? And if he never uses it, it just goes to your children?

It's because of inequality in inheritance rules that the law has been changed tyo allow civil partnership for same sex partners..but obviously a partnership of marriage is available to heterosexual couples so if you don't marry then that is the position and you pay inheritance tax of 40% over 275,000 if you inherit