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so angry and upset..all over santas grotto at HARRODS what would you do?

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laughinglil · 16/11/2005 12:33

Hello as alot of you know I am a mum to twin dd/ds aged 20 months. I am so looking forward to christmas this year because they have started to understand what it is all about.
Anyway... on saturday dp took the twins over to see MIL and FIL. They all ended up staying the night. (which was very weird because I got to relax! hehe)
I went over on the sunday for dinner meeting them all there and MIL was telling me how much the twins loved the trip to the garden centre seeing all the light up father christmas and the flashing lights.
She then told me how at the end of November when santas grotto opens at Harrods she is taking them. She had already ordered them new matching baby dior outfits and shoes to go there with!
Me and Dp stood there stunned. he didnt know anything about it either but he thinks its a lovely idea.
The thing is she didn't even ask me ? I really would of loved to have been the first to take them to see Santa but why o bloody why at harrods and whats the need for matching baby dior outfits!!!!!!
I don't know what to do!!!!

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Enid · 16/11/2005 12:34

blimey

let her

then sell the outfits on Ebay afterwards

they'll be terrified of santa anyway

QueenVictoria · 16/11/2005 12:35

Cant you go with them?

baka · 16/11/2005 12:35

they'll probably just cry. Wouldn't worry about it.

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laughinglil · 16/11/2005 12:35

thats the other thing..she turned around and said your not coming are you? to dp and i! I just mumbled and walked away.

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LadySherlockofLGJ · 16/11/2005 12:36

Let her take them, they won't remember, agree with Enid they will be terrified.

You do it next year.

Jackstini · 16/11/2005 12:37

I would find somewhere that has a Santa's grotto before then and take them yourself so you share their first time.
They can still have the Harrods trip with M&FIL and noone needs to be any the wiser. As for the baby Dior outfits, graciously accept, sounds like that is just the way they are. If they are hideous you can always sell them on Ebay!!

colditz · 16/11/2005 12:37

let her do the first Santa. You can do the first Santa they remember!

zippitippitoes · 16/11/2005 12:38

20 months can they really know anything about santa?

I understand you wanting to be the first to do some things though, but tbh they will not remember by next year

mr plum is nearly 19 months and I think he would be horrified..

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laughinglil · 16/11/2005 12:39

she is very designer person we have to discuss what the dt's are wearing every time we go over there ! I was only going to take them lakeside or somewhere it just would have been nice to ask i think

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Rhubarb · 16/11/2005 12:39

Like they're gonna remember at that age! Agree that they will be petrified! Just at the age when they get wise to strangers - nice timing!

Just make sure she doesn't get their ears pierced whilst she's at it!

GREATauntymandy · 16/11/2005 12:39

I would take them somewher before her!
MILs who dothey think they are

Aero · 16/11/2005 12:39

Just thank her for the outfits (then do as you please with them), and her kind offer, and then politely say that you very much want to be the one to take them to see FC for the first time at a place of your own choosing when you think they're ready.
Sounds like she means well - perhaps you could all go together - not necessarily to Harods though?

Hausfrau · 16/11/2005 12:40

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coppertop · 16/11/2005 12:40

I'd be devious. Take the twins to a different one first and then proudly coo over the photos within range of MIL.

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laughinglil · 16/11/2005 12:41

I think its just me being a bit jealous tbh. The thing is they just seem to be taking this christmas away from us. For example i am buying the dt's a ride on train for christmas and she keeps asking if we are still buying it for them she said on sunday if you can't afford it we'll buy it I was like YES we can afford it thank you. It all seems like a big competition and it just seems not fair on them!

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laughinglil · 16/11/2005 12:42

she bought them matching necklaces and bangles last year ! they havent been out of there boxes and the wont be!

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fairyfly · 16/11/2005 12:43

More important things to get upset or worried about i would say, they will enjoy it. You can take them too, children don't really tire of it and everytime is exciting.
Enjoy the fact your kids are getting spoilt and nanna wants to treat them. Kids joy is meant to be shared isn't it? Save your energy for a real saga.

Nemo1977 · 16/11/2005 12:43

I agree let her take them, they will probably scream. Then you and dh take them in dec to a different one where they will be a bit more relaxed as they are wiht mummy and daddy. As for outfits sell them on..

WigWamBam · 16/11/2005 12:48

They just want to share in their Christmas, that's all. I agree that it's not right not to ask you first, and to expect that they should be the ones to take the girls, but at least they love them enough to want to do it for them.

I wish my MIL could be bothered to take such an interest in dd; she's never taken her anywhere, never bought her a present or treated her out of the blue, and she's not even coming over to see her on Christmas day.

I understand you wanting to keep your children to yourself; I used to get horrendously jealous when other people did things with dd, but it sounds to me as if they just want to do nice things for their grandchildren. If you don't want them to take them to Harrods then you have to tell them that you want to do this yourself - or maybe suggest they can take them, but it will have to be after you have taken them yourself.

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laughinglil · 16/11/2005 12:49

i think in a way because she only had dp she sees dt's as children she never had.... drives my mad why o why are mil like this!

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Enid · 16/11/2005 12:50

my own mother hasn't visited us for three years. I would love her to suddenly take the girls to harrods.

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laughinglil · 16/11/2005 12:51

i think i am just going to say that we are coming as well at least that way we will both be happy. I know i should be ever so grateful thats what upsets me.

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RTKangaMummy · 16/11/2005 12:55

here are some tips on how to get the most out of your trip

It iws free to see santa but the photo costs £9.95

IMHO I would just go the week before to another FC and if you can go with them to Harrods

Gobbledigook · 16/11/2005 12:56

Enid. That's really

Enid · 16/11/2005 12:56

yes I know

she's a miserable old bag

no, she really is

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