nan and grandad are horrible

[nikcola]

well let me explain,

my mom and step dad amd my ltttle bro live in brum, i used to live there too but when my mom and dad split up when i was 14 my mom kicked me out and sent me to live with my dad who moved here (luton) to be with his new girlfriend,

since then ive had a dd with dp who is asian dd is nearly 4 and my mom is okish with it but personlallly i dont give a s**t what she thinks we dont get on very well but i make an effort for dd's sake) my nan and grandad (my moms mum and dad) are looking after my little bro noaelry 17 as he broke his leg in a m bike accident so he couldnt go woith my mom and s dad to their yearly hol to florida, still with me??!

my little bro rang the othet day to tell me that nan and grandad had come down to look after him (they live in b pool) i asked him to ask mom next time she phoned if i could come down for a few day a look after him and nan and grandad go back a few days early,so he said he would ask.....

i diont hear from him so i phoned him and lucilky he asnwered not them, and he said there had been a huge argumne t and grnadead had threaterned to beat him up if he mentioned me or dd in front of him again aparrently nan heard him on the phone to mom and told grandad thats when the s**t hit the fan , i just cant belive that they can be so cruel and nasty im the only girl on moms side and have allways been my grandads fav, i knew they werent happy about dp and dds skin colpur ffs as i haven spoke to them for 5 years but i didnt think they hated me ! apparently things have been said about me and little bro dont want to tell me as he dont want to upset me ! moms back tomoorw and im expectings a telling off for interfering !

dont expect a relpy just want to talk xxx

Hi Nikcola, haven't spoken to you for a while!

That is completely and utterly inforgivable how your 'grandparents' are behaving. I am seething on your behalf. How can they be so shallow and cruel???

hi hun how you ?

i know they are pathetic and whats worse is nan is ill and ive been told she hasnt got long left and she wont even see me,

just to pee them off i sent lettle bro a pic off dd she had done at nursery the other week!!!!

Oh I'm fine thanks, stressed out.... but ok.

I would love to say that they are not worth it, judt forget about them etc etc. But I realise it's not that easy. Its not your fault, it's theirs and it is them that will one day regret this.

I've been out of touch of whats been going on with you..... what happened with your DP??? Did he go through with the arranged marriage? Are you still together?

yeh he got married nearly a year ago now! we are still together he is in the process of buying his own house and im in two minds to move in with him he really wants us to but im not sure, his family are still on his case about bringing her over here from pakistan but he asked me to hide all of his paperwork so he cant give in to them ffs, but we are ok seam to be getting on more nowdays still arguee but mostly about his family,

his family still hate dd yes they said they hate her f**king sick arent they so poor dd had no faily at all bless her, and when my mom gets back tomoorw i can see me and her falling out too

poor you

you aren't alone. I have a friend who has a 21 year old daughter, white british, has been going out with a seikh for 12 months. His family think the world of her, but the girl's grandparents are livid.

They have not only refused to acknowledge this young man, her grandmother claims the whole thing has given her a nervous breakdown. She has tried to commit suicide and is now on ADs (the grandmother).

The young lady in question is at university. All this trouble happened at the end of the summer term, and as a result, she was too upset to sit her exams. She now has to repeat her whole second year at the same time as doing her third year (god knows how that works). I know this girl very well and I fear she won't cope with the workload and will drop out of university. She switched courses earlier, so she has masses of debt already.

These grandparents were supposedly so proud that she was the first of their family to go to university. They are effectively ruining her life and have left her feeling so guilty that she wonders whether she ought to finish with her boyfiend.

Some attitudes are so unforgivable. I don't think I could bear to speak to her grandma if I saw her in the street. I hope she marries this lovely man and has many gorgeous, turban-wearing little boys. She's lovely and I feel so sad for her

I'm sorry he went through with the marriage, but glad he came back to you. Do you think his wife will come over???? That would be a tad awkward! Does she know about you?

Your dd DOES have family, she has you and your DP and your Brother. I'm so sorry your family and his family are being so cruel. Your dd really is the innocent here..... but she doesn't need racist bigots like that in her life anyway!!!!

Its only a loss if they are worth being Grandparents. And they are clearly not. SO no loss to your dd whatsoever.

oh poor her, its so sad that they cant just see past the coulr of skin as long as he treats her right who gives a s**t imo dd can marry who she likes as long as he is good to her,

even my dad is aggenst dp i dont see him much as he is allways apparently busy yeh right! but im sick of explaining to dd why we dont see family at x mas atc its so so sad, i dread x mas,

i even found out thet my mom told everyone at her work the dd is spanish ffs why lie?

yeh she knows about me she doesnt care she just wants a ticket to england! i have told him that if she ever does come here i WILL leave him and he has promised that she wont ill just have to wait and see i suppose but i really will leave if she does come here its not fair

Oh my God!
What a sad ignorant bunch of people. Your DD is far better off without them. Unfortunately she is the innocent one in all this. If your brother is more open-minded hopefully she can forge a close & lasting relationship with him as they both grow older and he becomes more independant of the rest of your family.
Good luck to you!!

my little bro is lovely well hes not so little nearly 17 6 foot and huge! i miss him loads allthough id never tell him lol! dd loves him too hes her only uncle well only decent non racist one,

roll on tomoorw when i have another bust up with my mom

moms not back till sunday morning so ill get a telling off then not today !