am I being stupid?

[cutekids]

there's a parent who i talk nearly every day to at the bus stop. we've talked about everything considering we hardly know each other and her daughter has taken to my seven year old daughter-in same school but my daughter is six months older than this little girl. this little girl's birthday is on sunday and her mother has asked me if my daughter would like to sleep-over. for now, i've managed to get out of it but eventually she's going to wonder why i keep saying no. for one, my seven year old has never done a sleepover before apart from at my mum's with her younger brother and sister. secondly, they've got a Rottweiler....! now i actually have a fairly big dog myself and i know that any dog can turn if it gets upset but i've heard so much bad press-about youngsters going to friend's houses and the rottweiler has turned on the "stranger" in their house etc! don't get me wrong, i like rotties but i'm not sure i feel comfortable letting my daughter stay there as i know she'd make a fuss of the dog etc. do i come clean or do i let her go?

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I'd just tell her the truth. At least you can say to her I'm worried about the dog rather than I don't actually know you that well and would feel uncomfortable lettting my DD stay overnight at your house (which is what I would feel, with the added worry of the dog of course)

Why not suggest that they play together at each other houses while they get to know each other better and suggest leaving sleep overs until they are a bit older

Poor you...I can see your dilemma. I wouldn't be happy about it either and if I wasn't happy I wouldn't let her go.

But I'd be totally honest with the other mum about the dog though, otherwise she'll be looking for all sorts of other reasons why you might have said no. Could you suggest a sleepover at your house some other time or would that be plain rude?!

yes kid i think i should just say i'm worried shouldn't i? by the way, although i say i "hardly know her", i've known her long enough to trust her what i mean is that we've never been to each other's houses or gone out for coffee or anything like that! believe me, i wouldn't hand my kids over to just anyone....!

I wouldn't let my child go into the house of someone who had a Rottweiler at all.

I think keeping dogs is very strange. Especially in this country where people let them live in their houses. Even know someone who lets the dogs upstairs on the beds and everything. Minging.

I think i'm just going to have to say to her-if she invites her again!- that i'd mentioned the rotty to my hubbie and he was a little concerned....blame hubbie for everything...! Trouble is, she has told me once that sometimes people refuse her invitations simply because she lives on a council estate which really doesn't worry me at all. Trouble is, if I keep stalling I think she's going to think the same of me!