losing the battle

[pashmina]

I really need some tlc, been to see my step dad, funny calling him that , my Mum only married him 7 weeks ago, but he has been in my life 8 years, and he means a lot. he is in last stages of cancer, only diagnosed 9 weeks ago, and we are devastated. DH away, but he loves him too and returning tomorrow, hopefully in time. really hard seeing him, he is at home, where he eants to be, held his hand until macmillan nurse came to give sedative, we d9n't want him to go.

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Don't really know what to say but thought i'd post anyway. I can't offer any tlc but..

(((((((( BIG HUGS ))))))))))

sorry you are all going through this pashmina

thanks so much, never really been a mumsnetter till recently, because dh away And becausse of situation, just felt needed some extra support. my mum calls him her biggest love, we lost my dad 10 years ago. (to cancer so been ther before)he is my 2 dd's only grandad, god, I feel so low

oh your poor mum and you. I lost my dh to cancer. Horrible horrible disease. 2 go through it twice in 1 lifetime, I can only imagine

oh dear pashmina how awful for you and everyone

oh how awful for you all ((((((big hug)))))))

Delgirl, feel even worse thinking about losing your dh. it feels like cancer has dictated my life. My Mum got it 20 years ago (breast) and survived, thank god, but was overdosed with radiation, and suffers nerve damage on left arm, tyen 10 years later Dad got Prostate, lasted 5 yrs, then qwe lost him. Mum met current DH, who we all adore, and I have to say, her choice was impecible, Kind, Generous, loving, caring..and the in August, our lives were blown aw\ay agin by cancer. I am going back tomorrow morning will never forget him, becxause he is a very special man.

So sorry to hear what you're all going through
{{{{{big hug}}}}}}}

My dear step dads macmillan nurse came tonight because he was getting distressed. it is her day off, and our local health authority has shut out of hours care anyway, so she shouldn't of been there anyway. she helped with meds, but more importantly, she gave him comfort. Terminal illness doesn't happen 9-5. please help, we need to stop this loss of care from happening. I will be investigating what to do, and I am sure there are plenty of people out there who will help.

my head hurts, my eyes hurt, I'm going to bed. i hope I get some sleep, will take 2dd's tp respective school/nursery, and face tomorrow, and what it brings. thanks for everybody being so kind and letting me have an outlet to rant, scream, cry etc

Pashmina, I don't have much to say, but his diagnosis was obviously recent and so you are having to deal with your own shock and grief as well as support your SD and your mum. That is so hard for you, and I wish you all the love and support in the world to carry you through this sad time

((((( strenght and love )))))

spent some time with him today, still lucid, but struggling to breathe. pulse is weakening, but he is as comfortable as possible. at last, tonight we get a marie curie nurse. much more peace of mind for my mum. Macmillan nurse is amazing. DH back tonight, but he is going to visit sd before xoming homew, so probably too late to see dd's before bed. really can't wait to see him.

Pashmina, thinking of you all tonight, hope you are bearing up....

Thinking of you, Pashmina.

Don't know what to say - in my thoughts

had a tough few days, we lost my dear SD on tuesday. been staying with my mum, helping out and generally crying together a lot. He was a real gentleman, and I am so glad he was in our lives. thanks everyone for your kind thoughts