Why are people so ignorant?

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dd is 3 next week and we've arranged a party at the local soft play place. Sent the invites out two weeks ago which included 6 to her friends at nursery and only 1 has bothered to reply.

She went to nursery today after 1/2 term and asked "xxx" if she was coming to the party. "xxx"is 4 and said "Mummy, says I can't go because there may be children there who aren't like us but I really want to come"! What the hell does that mean? I am fuming. 1. How much effort does it take for any of the 5 ignorant parents to pick up the phone to reply?

dd is upset and says no-oneis coming to her party. I invited 13 and 2 have replied to say can't come, 6 have accepted so that leaves these 5 ignorants from nursery. dh drops dd off at nursery and says he's not surprised as "they're all up themselves". Really really sad about this.

It's cr@p isn't it? Well for starters you should be grateful 'your not like them' . Could you ring the 5 to see whats going on? Thats what I had to resort to for my DS's party and then one of them couldn't go unless we collected him.

A 'friend' of mine at another party with her DD was invited to a girls teaparty the next day, the mothers reply was 'I'm not sure what we're doing tommorrow???' What sort of reply is that? I just though - How rude. If you don't want to go DONT GO, but don't give some wishy washy answer not saying either way.

The one positive thing is you will always reply to invites whether your DD can attend or not because of it.

Oh very nice beetroot!

(Didn't know that ggg had been posted since last year!! Tempus fugit an' all that..)

I had this in April, it's very upsetting. I invited 6 children to dd's 3rd b'day party, and 2 ended up turning up. The other 4 pulled out either the day before or on the day. I think I was more upset than dd, being 6wks pregnant didn't help, but still get angry when I think about how inconsiderate people can be.
I'm sure your dd will have a fab time Galaxy & won't notice that there are less children there than the other parties she's been to recently.

this is an aside issue - can I just ask - my ds has been invited to a party at a sea life centre. But I dont know the mum/child and ds has never been left at a party before (he is just 3) - is it ok for a mum to stay at a childrens party or do I just drop him off and leave?

what does 'children not like us' mean?

emily, i'm sure they'll expect you to stay
My dd is four and a half and has not been left at a party!

emily05, I'd say it depends on your son and the parents. Is your son ok with being left? Can you ask the parents if they're expecting kids to just be dropped off (presumably if you stay, you'll have to pay your entrance fee, or they will?).

How well does your son know the kids who'll be there? And how well does he know the adults?

Oh, at all of the parties I've been to lately (4 year olds, mostly), some kids have been left. I've only left DS1 at one party, so far, as it was at a play, and I didn't want to incur extra expense for the hosts.

But yeah, ask the parents what they want/expect?

oh good! I dont mind paying for me. He has only been at nursery for 3 months. I dont know the adults at all (either does ds) and have no idea who the child is. ds doesnt know the adults and vaguely knows the child. I think I might stay - might try and call the mother before hand. Just wanted to make sure that I am not being overprotective!

Emily05,

I'd be horrified if all the mums at a 3 yr old party that I was running up sticks and left. I'm sure the birthday boy / girl's mum will be only too pleased that you intend to stay.

Oh, under those circumstances, I would absolutely stay.

I find at least half the mums stay these days, anyway.

wow! Loads of replies. In answer to the question about parents' staying, I would expect the parents to stay as the children are only 3. I know all the mums who have accepted and they'll definitely stay.

Furball - I don't know what the mums look like let alone their phone numbers!

GGL, sadly France is off our plans now. We looked at the business in the Limousin which on the face of it was perfect for dh. It was an entomology centre but it was very rural Limousin and made most of its money from doing tours for local schools (and we have limited French). Was very run down and the books had obviously been cooked. We've decided to stick around for the next few years whilst ds is at senior school and see how we feel after that.

Update:

sis gave the list to dd's nursery teacher who it seems asked the parents. Of the 6 invbited, 2 have now left phone messages apologising profusely for not calling sooner but declining due to other commitments, 1 has accepted saying she only just found the invite and 1 is still to reply. Chances are that is the one who's mother made the class comment. d's happy now she knows her two "boyfriends" are coming

DD is 3yo an I always stay at parties with her. So do all the other parents.