Why doesn't my mum *like* me?

[colditz]

I have just had an argument over the phone with her, resulting in me putting the phone down (not constructive, I know)

But she said she was coming up to see me this morning. And when I rang to find out what time, all I got was a pissed off litany on how busy she was, and how she couldn't give me a precise time, and how I had pressured her into saying she would come up in the first place, and so on...

So, ok, she's busy. But I didn't know that, I only rang to ask if she wanted to go to the car boot sale. She wouldn't speak to any of her friends like that.

I have a few friends, I know my personality isn't totally repulsive, so why does my mum find me so unpersonable? It does make me sad.

I know that nobody here has the answers, by the way.

Totally agree Custy

The thing is, she is great with ds, she is really affectionate towards him, plays with him, talks to him - when she sees him. Which isn't very often unless I nag her. Which I keep vowing to myself I won't do anymore.

I almost get the feeling that she only avoids seeing him because she wants to avoid seeing me, IYKWIM.

Although I do think she loves me really, i think she finds me boring because I'm pregnant and won't go to the pub with her.
I am a real sad case today aren't I!

colditz, one thing that strikes me about your posts on this thread is that you describe how your mum isn't very nice to you and then then quickly go on to 'excuse' this eg you were a 'vile teenager' or are boring because you can't drink at the moment. Maybe, you should stop trying to always see it from her side and just allow yourself to feel what you feel so that you can work out why you let her behave in this way.

I hope that doesn't come across as harsh - it certainly isn't meant to.

Sis, you don't come across as harsh at all, you have a good point.