nightmare weekend

[Bogwoppit]

I am having a nightmare weekend.

I have been camping because Dh is doing gt nth run tomorrow. last night DS wouldn't sleep, it poured with rain, airbed got a punture & tent leaked.

Today tent still leaking & DS not happy about beeing cooped up in the rain.

Have just driven 2.5hrs home with DS cecause it was gonna be too stressfull to do another night when people have to get up early to run.

Then to top it all I had a really awful phonecall & just don't know what to do or how to feel.

One of my best friends rang to say her granddaughter was found dead in her bed this am. she is only 2 (same age as my DS).
The 2 kids got on really well together. She was waiting for police & coroner when I spoke to her.

I don't know what to do or say really. I want to cry, but can't.

I have said I am available any timeof day or night, but it is just so awful to comprehend on top of all the other poo.

Hugs! You're right - it is too awful to comprehend. A friend of DHs lost her baby to cot death at about 6 weeks old and he was born the same time as DS1. I think you've said exactly the right thing - that you'll be there, whenever.

More hugs...

Bogwoppit how awful. Hope things get better soon.

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Bogwoppit very very sad.
LOL and hugs coming your way

Oh how dreadful, Bogwoppit. Your poor, poor friend and poor you too.

You sound like a wonderful person though and I bet there's a part of her that will be glad you were there for her at this terrible time; you're doing exactly the right thing, I think. All my love.

Oh, how awful for you all. Hugs to you.

Bogwoppit, I don't know what to say to you either - it's just unbelievable - it must seem like a bad dream. Don't forget we are all available any time when you need to talk. Hugs.

Bogwoppit, that phone call made my blood run cold. I am thinking of you. Hugs.

I'm so sorry, Bogwoppit, it's a terrible thing to happen. A couple of my friends have lost babies to SIDS and you've done the right thing. Maybe dropping a note in to her would be in order, too. I did that with my neighbour and she said just having the piece of paper with my message on helped her get through it. Thinking of you all, Sue

Sympathies and hugs sent from here too.

What terrible news. So difficult to comprehend as well, especially on top of the exhausting time camping you have just had. I think dropping in a note with a messge is a very good idea.

I have a card to post - they live in Devon now (they moved from here in Yorkshire last year).

Thanks for the support.

DS & I had a good sleep in the dry. woke up at 7.30 to asunny morning & drove back to southshields where we arrived in time to see elite runners & more importantly DADDY come accross the finish line.

Back home now &heading for an early night.

thanks again for kind messages. she knows I am there for her any time & that is the importnant thing.

oh lord bogwoppit, I'm so sorry to hear that, it made my heart stop reading your post. I'm sure you'll be there for your friend, but look after yourself as well, after news like that you may well be hit by a bit of shock in the next couple of days as it sinks in. I don't know what else to say, lots of love.

Bogwoppit, that's just so awful, don't have words for it. You are doing the right things - just to let them know you are there if you are needed, but it is going to be so hard on you too. God, life is so S**T sometimes.

Bogwoppit, I don't know you very well, but I can understand the devastation you must feel along with that of the Mother, Grandmother and all of the family for that matter. Take care of yourself and your DS first as everyone has said, it is good that you will post the card to her. It is so hard to understand why these things happen and where we get the strength to go on after it happens. Sending you my sympathies.

Bogwoppit ... this is truly awful news for anyone to handle ... be kind to yourself and your friend will know that you are there for her ...
Thinking of you ... hugs {{{{{}}}}}

bogwoppit, so sorry to hear you've had this terrible news. What a tragedy. Hope dh can really help when he gets back.All the best to you & the girl's family.

i had a quick message from friend last night. basically having a bad day & will be in touch.

I bought the Hayley Westenra CD yesterday & had in on in the car last night. - well I was in floods of tears. the lyrics to soem of the songs were just so appropriate.

finding today hard even though it is my birthday.
I know other people are taking it badly too.

thanks again for al the kind messages.

I'm crying as i write, so excuse me for spelling etc
my friend has just been round. they have come up to yorkshire for the weekend.

they are coping - just.

the PM was inconclusive. it could be up to 11 weeks before the body is released.
the paper up here printed an article which suggested foul play which has really (understandably) upset them all, as Amy was the aplle of her mums eye.

they have a burial plot chosen which they can visit to leave flowers. The other night they released white roses into the sea at Woolacombe.

It was a flying visit because they were running late. I so wanted to hug her but couldn't because I didn't think I could cope. - in that I'd have started crying & didn't know if I could stop.

tehy have some lovely videos & photos for memories, but my friends daughters life is in tatters & her mum ( my friend) just doesn't know how to help her

I don't know how to put whati am feeling into wordsso I'll stop now

I don't know what to say either, bogwoppit - just awful for all concerned. Local papers will write anything if it sells a few more copies.

The videos etc will be better than nothing at all but losing your child must be like the end of your life. Can't imagine how it feels.