14 month old bottom teeth 'starting to decay'! need advice

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I'm crying my eyes out at the minute. Just been to the dentist and have been told that DS1 14 months old has started to get slight decay in his bottom teeth! It's a new dentist (young guy) and when he said it was decay I went bright red and wanted the ground to open and swallow me up!
I'm just really shocked baecause i'm soo fussy about his dental hygiene. He never has sweets/biscuits but i do give him organic fruit yoghurt and he doesnt drink juice, only milk and water, and only in a lidded beaker, no bottles. i brush his teeth twice a day THOROUGHLY. I noticed on his bottom teeth a slight discolouration just a little bit yellow but i'm absolutley positive they have been like that since they came through! I just wondered if teeth can naturally have discolouration and not be perfectly white? Does anyone else notice this on their children's baby teeth? I know i shouldnt be questioning a dentist but I feel he's got it wrong. DS1 wouldn't open his mouth very wide for him so wondering if he didn't get a proper look!Can anyone help me please? I feel like such a bad mother, I'm 21 so felt like the dental nurse was giving me the evils. she kept asking if i gave him juice in a bottle, i was like 'NO!! How many times do i have to tell you!' thanks x

Yes teeth can come through with yellow bits, although I think it's more common with second teeth (DS2 is 12 and has inadequate enamel on some molars and they have yellow blotchy tops).

It sounds as if you are doing everything absolutely right and that the dentist and the nurse were out of order in making assumptions about you. Is there another dentist at the practice who you would prefer to see?

Poor you! No helpful advice I'm afraid, apart from good on you for taking your DS to the dentist at such a young age. My DDs were 6 & 4 at their first visit .

Can you get a second opinion? Do "good teeth" run in your family? I have to say that the reason I was a bit lax with the DDs was that DH and I both have good teeth and was optimistic that the DDs would have inherited them. Luckily they seem to have done so.

I have good teeth and so does my dp thats why i cant work it out! i better just cut down on the fruit and clean his teeth after every meal time. Still confused though

Have had this with the top 2 front teeth of 4 of my 9 children. Dentist kept referring to it as bottle caries. They have never had a bottle and have had nothing different to my other children. I also mentioned that all my top first teeth went black before they fell out. I don't know whether it's an inherited weakness or whether I've just not pin-pointed what I did different for those 4. However, the good news is that the adult teeth of 3 of them have come through perfect. We are still waiting for no. 4s to fall out (she's 5).