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Why do I feel obliged to be SuperMum?

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marthamoo · 17/10/2005 11:10

It's World Book Week, or Day, or somesuch, apparently. So ds2 is to go to nursery either with his favourite book, with a 'prop' from his favourite book or as a character from his favourite book. I overheard one of the Mums say to another this morning "oh he's bringing his Power Ranger book" and her friend replied "yeah, we'll bring a Spiderman album..."

So why am I slaving over a pair of fairy wings, lovingly transforming them with much PVA and multi-coloured scraps of tissue paper, so he can go as the butterfly from The Very Hungry Caterpillar?

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twinsetandpearls · 17/10/2005 11:35

I don't know but I do it too! It drives dp mad when I am knackered becasue I have been up all night creating something when i could have bought it and made life so much easier.

weesaidie · 17/10/2005 11:36

I have no idea! Because you are a frustrated creative genius? Looking for any possible way you can allow your enormous talent shine through!?

twinsetandpearls · 17/10/2005 11:36

But I like making things so it makes me happy in a knackering kind of way.

kuoni · 17/10/2005 11:44

Maybe because you are happen to be a nice person who is putting a lot of energy and love into trying to do the best for your children and because that is what you believe that good mums are meant to do?
Good on you. Just imagine the look on his face of pride when he gets his turn and shows everyone what his mum made for him. My mum once made me a special scarecrow outfit with corn stuff into sleeves etc and took days and days on it. I was in primary school. Loads of other kids had on ready bough outfits but I was so proud of the one my mum had made just for me. Will never forget all those extra little touches she did just for me. We lived in a very wealthy area with not much money at all - in fact, our house was the smallest in the village and we were the only ones to have never been on a plane etc but she made us feel special as she took so much care in everything we did. She made our childhood exciting, fun and very loved. Your post reminds me of her in many ways. Slaving away on fairy wings is exactly what she would have done.

mandrake · 17/10/2005 11:48

it would be quicker to throw a green blanket over them, and they could go as the cocoon page of the book.

am clearly not supermum....

Earlybird · 17/10/2005 11:50

I probably would have borrowed some 'fairy wings' from a little girl friend, and let him use those....so, you're a better mum than me!

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marthamoo · 17/10/2005 15:26

Aw, thanks kuoni - my Mum's the same, perhaps that's where I get it from.

Damn wings are not dry yet - may be up at midnight with the hairdryer

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marthamoo · 17/10/2005 23:08

You should see his wings - they are fantastic

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BadHair · 18/10/2005 00:17

I remember my mum taking ages to make me wings when I was the Angel Gabriel. They were cardboard and she cut up crepe paper and glued it all over to look like feathers. They were enormous and weighed a ton, but I can really remember her doing it.
Actually so can she - she swears vehemently whenever it's mentioned.

Tortington · 18/10/2005 00:39

d'ya know marthamoo i am believing my own hype - i read this thread earlier today and thought rotten things along the lines of rod for your own back and such - then realised that just yesterday i trawled all the charity shops in worthing for books with pictures of animals you would find in a jungle - then spend all fecking evening doing a henri fecking roussaeu collage for ds homework - he helped of course!

bobbybob · 18/10/2005 06:33

I'm sure the Power Rangers is exactly what the World Book week people had in mind!

auntymandy · 18/10/2005 06:42

I remember making so much with no1.Not sure i'll be so good with 4 and 5 lets wait and see

buffytheharpsichordcarrier · 18/10/2005 07:18

quite the opposite to kuoni.... my mum could never be a**ed to make or buy me anything (or indeed to show up to any school events) so I am determined that my dd won't always feel like the odd one out as I did.

mymama · 18/10/2005 07:38

I go to such lengths too because my mum never made/baked anything or attneded school events etc. I am determined that will not happen with my children.

dejags · 18/10/2005 08:19

I am the same as Harpsichord. My mum could never ever be bothered with this sort of thing - so I am determined to do right by my boys - I would definitely do the same thing.

Marthamoo - I think what you did was lovely. Your DS2 may not remember what you did in years to come but he will certainly grow up knowing that you will always go the extra mile for him - what a fantastic sense of security he will get from that!

Tortington · 18/10/2005 17:25

and another rousseau collage tonight ( i have twins different classes senior school) only this time she tells me "miss wants plants in it!" so i walked in the kitchen and said to myself " well miss can kiss my arse" and cut bits of grass out of the animal books for the collage...that dd did - honest.

aloha · 18/10/2005 17:27

I'd quite like the excuse to do a bit of collage. Would make a change from watching serial killers on the telly.

aloha · 18/10/2005 17:27

I also remember all my mum's beautiful costumes, more than 30 years on.

motherinferior · 18/10/2005 17:28

Oh, I don't know, you can't get enough serial killers I think.

aloha · 18/10/2005 17:37

I suppose you can actually do creative things with collage/butterfly wings while watching screaming women having their fingers cut off/being drowned in an inch of water/whatever more bizarre, extreme and sadistic thing the jaded scriptwriter comes up with...
I even watch Midsomer murders from behind the sofa these days.

FauxVampire · 18/10/2005 17:50

If it's any consolation, kids do remember their mums' efforts, as aloha says. My sister and I still reminisce about a roundabout cake my mum made for one of our birthdays, complete with toy horses.

ThomBat · 18/10/2005 17:52

Beacuse they are lazy arsed mothers and you're not!

You crack on with you painstaking work love, good on you.

And when you'red one pop in a jiffy bag to TC, Pinner, Middx and i'll save it for Lottie book Day or whatever it is!

lovely!

moondog · 18/10/2005 17:56

Oh I do hope they bloody remember!
I slaved one very late night over a lovely Nigella birthday cake for my dd (complete with star shaped sparklers to set it off) to take to nursery for her birthday once,at a time when I was working f/t,b/feeding,training to be a b/feeding peer supporter,walking adog miles every night after work,washing nappies out every night and all alone as dh was away!

Aaaaarghh!!

(All seems like a bad dream now,especially as I've just been out for dinner and dh is bathing the kids while I loaf. Blisssss......)

katierocket · 18/10/2005 17:58

I was going to say that same - about children remembering their mothers efforts. The kids with the power ranger album aren't going to remember that are they!

I'm the same moo and sometimes I wonder about looking almost too keen IFYKWIM, but that I think sod it, it's for DS.

Good for you. Did he take them in today BTW?

Tortington · 18/10/2005 18:02

henri roussaeu and serial killers - wonder why those two things came together in this thread?

....am off to sharpen my knives..... "children, whats your art teacher called again?"