Good place to live - outer London area

[CJ2010]

Hi all - would like to pick your brains about pleasant places to live that are a communtable distance into London.

Currently live on the SE London / Kent border and have had enough of it. Area is rapidly declining and the train service into London isn't great. We have a DD (1 year) and another DC on the way, so we plan to do our move in the next year or so, before we have to start worrying about schools etc.

Where we currently live, it feels like you are in the minority if you actually go to work, lots of layabouts round here. The job centre and the Whetherspoons are the busiest places here. I want to live amongst respectable working people. Where is this place???!!!

Things to consider:

1. We can afford to go up to 250k for a property.

1. Need a good train service into London - DP uses London Bridge station. Plus, no more than 1 hour commute each way.

1. Good schools

1. Pleasant environment, nice people, good selection of shops and cafes, parks & green space.

1. Hospital with A & e nearby, plus a number of good doctors sugeries and dentists.

I would be really grateful for suggestions, then I can begin to work on my escape plan!

Haywards Heath? Very middle class, decent hospital, trains take a bit under an hour into London Bridge, so school are ok I believe. You could afford this house, for example (Lindfield is a short drive from HH and has a decent village primary school).

Cambridgesire. Trains to KingsX, good hospitals and decent schools.
Disclaimer, I haven't lived in that area for around 20 years or so, but remember it being bucolic.

I'd recommend the Richmond area as I love living there but ..... for that amount you could barely get a two-bed flat! Its on the Waterloo line, so good for getting into London. Kew has everything you are looking for too, and Twickenham and Hampton. But then I've never lived anywhere else in Greater London so I would say I love it there!