Dreams replaying a a part of the past you would rather forget about

[fairyfly]

I had to go to court this time last year. I have dreamt about it everynight this week. I am back there, feel the same amount of fear and stress. I am waking up and experiencing the same amount of angst i did at the time. It's putting me in a rancid mood. Can anyone tell me why this would be happening? I need to stop feeling so negative my children will be applying for a divorce.
Any positive bollocksy angle you can find that would tell me its a good thing and just getting rid of the past. I really don't want to start dwelling on it, i'm slightly scared i am going to get reall anxious and fearful. Could really do without loosing it just now. Thankyou.

Go find someone - anyone -andtalk and talk and talk about how you are feeling. This is part of the getting over it process and is entirely normal and good. Work out that angst!

gggl xxx

Usually, IMO we dream stuff because of unanswered questions our subconscious is trying to resolve for us or because we still havent got over certain aspects of something and our minds are prompting us to look at it.

You need to look at the dream and see what it is trying to tell you. Im afraid i dont much about you or your court case so i cant be any more help.

Well I think it is a good thing. When I underwent psychotherapy I was told that dreams help you to explore and work through problems. So for instance, the dream you're having now, after repetition will finally cease to worry you. Eventually the defendant will seem pathetic and unthreatening and you will feel better.

I don't know if you ever feel you can influence the outcome of a dream (I do) - it's like being partly aware that you're asleep and intervening. You can then make sure that the 'characters' in the dream do as you want them to do. It's quite empowering. I've slapped my MIL and SIL a few times, I can tell you. Most cathartic.

I think it's just your unconcious mind processing everything over and over until it's "done" and then you'll move on... anniversaries of dates tend to do that in our brains for some reason...

Think you've kind of answered your own question here - you COULD do with just losing it nd letting go of all the bad stuff now - AND YOU WILL!

At a certain level you must still (and understandably) be upset about the court case. It is not surprising that these thoughts are appearing in your dreams when the anniversary is approaching. It is something which you have tried to bury but I suppose if there's any way you can deal with these emotions it will help you to move on and really leave it behind you (subconsciously as well).
Maybe these dreams could be cathartic in that they help you to face the demons and really move on. A year is still a very short time to move on from harrowing experiences.

I suppose you can't spend one year thinking about someone and pushing it away. I haven't had a day when he doesn't come into my head. I try and imagine what he is doing. I think the dreams are harrowing as i see his face.
I don't know really what i would do in the dream if i was to try to. I don't feel anger, i feel guilt.
I think im just stressed. Brain overload. I'm sure they will subside when i calm down a bit.

FF sorry to crash, just checking about hotel bookings for London, could you check out this thread
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Thanks

Crunchie

Any dreams last night?