SIL ....RANT

[Slink]

She thinks she is above me, she has a high pwered job i gave up mine to be a SAHM (for 3yrs now) she speaks to me like a child, I am a carer for HER mother(she lives with us) and she never volunteers to come to appts or asks me anything, i email when i have info then she will ring her mum but she says speak to me and she won't. She doesn't engage in conversation with me unless it is child orinatated she thinks i thick!!!!!!!! She hardly ever comes to see her mum i take her to her house, rings few times aweek. Yet she is the dogs bollocks oh she works and she is tired ...... she left her children with 4 nannies in their time but moans and says wish she could stay at home and she can and couls at any time.........................
Ok need to go and take dd to school had to get that of my chest bugging me all night. As she rang last night in her pathetic vioce saying she had fasted all day..... So f what so did i oh but i don't work i stay home ALLLLLLL DAYYYYYYY.

GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

Sounds a bit like she has a guilty conscience (sp??)Slink

tell her to shut her gob next time she starts wittering.

....just seems pointless bothering being pleasant to her .

I try to convince myself that she feels guilty that she does not pull her weight her dh is a bit of a shit and made a pass at me earlier this year my dh's knows who knows what he said to her. She used to be ok see the last nanny asked the dh to leave with her and tried to turn the kids....... so we were close for a while then she gets all self rightous (sp) I am tempted to confront her about her attitude but then don't want to upset my dh as he is a gem.
Stupid silly cow, at least i look at my dd and have no regrets

Have you talked to your dh about how much she's getting to you? Maybe that would clear the path to "having a word" with her. It shouldn't need to be confrontational (was only joking about shutting her gob ). It does grind you down this sort of thing.

Totally sympathise Slink, she must be a PITA - but I thought this sentence was telling: "She used to be ok see the last nanny asked the dh to leave with her and tried to turn the kids....... so we were close for a while then she gets all self rightous"

Do you think she is trying to cover up her unhappiness by looking down on you? I guess she is insanely jealous of you - you get to stay at home with your kids, you have a loyal husband, free time (in her eyes at least). So she tries to convince herself that you have "sold out" to make her feel better about her life choices.

Not that it excuses her behaviour towards you, it must be incredibly annoying!

I guess you are fasting for Ramadan? (sp) Is she worse at the moment? Or is this an ongoing problem?

No it's an ongoing problem, but don't want to sound big headed but i do thing she is jealous her dd says i am more fun and i dress better her dd says infront of her i am a laugh i like to have fun and i have a jolly 4 yr old who is on the go so i do roll down hills and runa round parks. She is only 45 but acts 105 will all the achs and pains she has. Oh and my size mmmmm she has to boast how she can fit in her 13 yrs dd knickers yes she is size 8 but i am HAPPY HEALTHY 12-14.

Dh well he just says her loss i am a really nice person he hates friction but he hates her dh and has done for yrs. So told mil that i will be spending Eid with my family and if sil does not invite her to come with me. (prob there is she won't and will stay on her own.
Sorry for going on but you are all great thanks xxxxx