I want to get away from him now immediately

[Hther]

I have completely had enough of my of a husband now and I want to leave right away...

but i ahve no friends i can stay with, no family, i ahve 4 children aged 6 and under and i don't drive

Will he go?

Unless you are in an emergency situation (e.g risk of immediate violence - in which case dial 999 now) you need to plan ahead a little bit.

There will be others along soon who know far more than me. Have you been in contact with Women's Aid/got legal advice/confided in rl friends? All of these are important imo.

Hther have you posted about this before? If not then perhaps you could give a little more info about your husband and his behaviour. If you have posted, then please link to the relevant thread; it will help people to give you the most appropriate support and advice.

He doesnt live with me, he hasnt done for ages but i bump into him when i'm out, he reckons its my fault he's homeless and is outside my door at the moment, he has asked if he can move back in with me, he didn't like my reply and now he's using the children to get to me, says he has a right to see the children whenever he wants etc

i ahve posted before can't do links or anything, long history of controlling behaviour, emotional abuse, threats etc, i'm sick of being blamed for everything, he causes himself problems, eg gives up his room then moans he's homeless but won't let anyone help him get accommodation sorted, moans he has no money but as soon as he gets a bit he buys a football shirt costing forty pounds etc

At the risk of sounding harsh then try to ignore him; if he persists in harassing you or is causing a disturbance or is actually threatening in behaviour then call the police. Sounds like you need legal advice?

Sounds really stressful.

i am trying to ignore him, thats what i normally try to do, i guess i just need to talk about how i'm feeling more than anything, maybe it seems worse tonight as i only had an hour sleep last night and am exhausted. I am just completely drained and i never know what he's going to do next

Just lock the door and don't answer your phone

He sounds like a homeless bum (by his own hand, so I have little sympathy)

Make him go through the courts to see his children (betting he won't)

If he is outside your door now causing problems, call the police.

if he frightens you, dial 999

get a non-molestation order, he can be impelled to stay away from you

Sounds like he is harassing you which is an offence - call police now.

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Hope he goes away soon op, and that you get a good night's sleep which will help in the short term.

don't talk to him if you don't want him inyour life.
talking to him only gives him oportunity to get back into your favour. and if taht isn't what you want then dont do it.

OP, are you ok?

Has he gone?

hi, sorry i didn't get a chance to get back to you, things are ok, for now, thanks everyone