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"The closer a courtship is to the magic figure of two years and four months in duration, the more successful the union".

52 replies

Tinker · 03/10/2005 12:30

Article here

Discuss?

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roosmum · 03/10/2005 14:35

we were together for 3 yrs before getting married...& now married 3 yrs too.
& we didn't co-habit

spookyserenity · 03/10/2005 14:36

We got married 10 years and 7 mths after we met, and we didn't 'co-habit' properly until 5 months before the wedding! Prior to that I swapped between living with my Mum, living with him at his Mum's and living with a friend.

We're coming up for our 8th wedding anniversary.

We were both rebelling in our own ways. My parents got married 6 weeks after they met, and had a turbulant marriage which dragged on too long and ended in divorce. My DH came from a background where he felt pressured into 'work, wife and family' and he resisted it for as long as he could!

berolina · 03/10/2005 14:36

We were married 2 yrs 9 months after getting together Celebrated 5 yrs of marriage the Sun before last.

MiaouTheFamiliar · 03/10/2005 15:07

dh and i were seeing each other for 2 years and 4 months before we got married. We got engaged a week after we started going out as a couple though! Had known each other as friends for about 8 months before that. And we cohabited from the beginning by default - we were housemates at uni (before we were going out together).

Incidentally, do people still say "going out" together? Actually that's a whole 'nother thread...

ponygirl · 03/10/2005 15:09

Dh and I were married 2 years and 4 months (minus 9 days!) after first meeting. Now married 8.5 years. Going fine so far!

hunkerpumpkin · 03/10/2005 15:10

MTF, I was wondering that - I've been with DH since I was a teenager and I'm just very grateful that I never had to "date" as an adult - I'd have been shit at it

MiaouTheFamiliar · 03/10/2005 15:15

I've started a thread on the subject, hunker.

I'm finding it a little hard to adjust to having initials, I keep thinking, "who is MTF? - oh it's me"

RachD · 03/10/2005 15:23

Dh & I married 2 yrs 4 mths after meeting.
But we lived together from day 1 becasue I rented his spare room - so I don't suppose that counts as 'courtship'.

So we match the statistic to the tee.

But thats nonsense, right ?

As proven by quotes on here and many people we all know who married after a week and still together 50 years later.
Where do these silly people get their statistics from ?

doormat · 03/10/2005 15:26

knew dh for years before we got together

after about 6 weeks of "bagging off" he moved in.

We got married 7 yrs later.

crunchie · 03/10/2005 15:35

Well I've always had a 2 year rule! Which basically says if you don't know where your relationship is going after 2 years, look again

puffinthedark · 03/10/2005 15:45

Blimey, me and dh "went out" with each other for almost exactly 2 years and 4 months before he asked me to marry him. He said it was the longest minute of his life while he waited for my answer to his proposal. As we hadn't lived together, I was having a good think about whether I should take the plunge!

Fio2 · 03/10/2005 15:46

errrr
about a week before engagment nah was longer about 6 months i think
then 2 yr before marriage
and eight years later of marriage

does that make sense?

Fio2 · 03/10/2005 15:48

not sure what 'bagging off' means doormat, sounds bloody vulgar

doormat · 03/10/2005 15:49

fio "bagging off" is niiiicccceeee

devilishboozo · 03/10/2005 15:49

Me and DP would have got married by now, but he's still married to someone else.

piffle · 03/10/2005 15:53

WE've been together 5 yrs have one 3 yr old dd, moved in together 15 mths after meeting (kept apart mainly as do was working away in Brussels for a yr) dd came along exactly 10 mths later
We're planning to wed next September close to our 6th yr anniversary

hunkerpumpkin · 03/10/2005 15:54

If I'd "courted" for two years and four months, I'd have been married when I was 18. I know that works for some people, but it wouldn't have been very magical for me, even though I married the same man 8 years later! LOL!

Gem13 · 03/10/2005 15:59

DH proposed 3 weeks after we got together. Didn't get engaged because I thought it was naff. Didn't tell anyone our plans either.

Finally married 8 years later. That was 7 years and 2 (and a bump) children ago.

HappyDaddy · 03/10/2005 16:23

My ex and I went out for 3 years before we got engaged, then another 3 years before we got married. After that time I learned that...

...she was still a cow.

Nbg · 03/10/2005 16:31

Dh met in Feb 2000, started going out in the Sep, moved in together the following April, got engaged May 2002, had dd Oct 2003, got married Jan 2004.

Interesting, I never really thought or worked that out before.

tallulah · 04/10/2005 18:55

This is interesting. We met in July 1981 and married in September 1983, so only 2 months out!!

melissasmummy · 05/10/2005 12:53

Met when I was 15, moved in when I was 18, engaged 19, married 20, first baby 30!

Still blissfully happy (well I am, he says he is)

I don't really think it has alot to do with how quick or how slow you marry or don't marry. It has to do with a lot of hard work being put into it & learning to live side by side & having respect, faith & trust in each other.

myturn · 05/10/2005 13:06

We met and got married within 7 months. Have been married for 13 years.

Absolutely agree with melissasmummy.

Bozza · 05/10/2005 13:21

We were 2 years and 7 months between meeting and marrying. Got engaged after 13 months although decision had been made previously. Semi co-habited for about a year before marriage.

eidsvold · 05/10/2005 13:24

oh well we don't fit it either...
got together Jul 01,
married oct 01,
pregnant Nov 01,
dd1 born Aug 02,
pregnant with dd2 Feb 04
gosh we were almost 2 dd's in that time frame... we are still together and coming up to 4 years later in the Month.....

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