Husband Works away all week

[minxi]

Do any of your husbands work away all week? I have 2 children and half the time feel like a single parent. Somtimes feel so alone and to the point where I can barely talk to my husband on the phone when he calls as can't be bothered or too tired - although never really blame him as its his job and he works far too hard as it is to be hassled by me complaining.. Is anyone else in the same situation..?

yup mine works away too

MIne off to South Africa for 10 days tomorriw - just got back from amsterdam today. Will miss ds2 sba day so we are moving it!

will be a regular Mn

Mine is home at the moment but has gone away a lot in the past. He spent about half of the last 2 years away from home, sometimes he would be away for several months at a time. It is tough, and I sympathise.

Hi minxi, my dh also goes away quite a lot. Sometimes I enjoy the time that he's not here, & other times I get upset like you because I feel like a single parent. Especially when he goes out to dinners or functions while he's away, or manages to 'fit in' a few games of golf here & there - it makes me think his trips are half business and half pleasure. It's very hard to take when you're at home with a young child all the time.

HI Minxi, I really do sympathise. Even though DH isn't actually out of the country that much, there are weeks on end when he is back after midnight and off to work by 7am. I've found myself getting very resentful of his "freedom" (although I don't think he sees it like that) and I've found what really helps is to go away, even for one night, leaving him with the kids. Infact, if you can manage, don't really leave it up for discussion, just kind of say that you are going on such a such date and he is in control. Even if you come back and he says its all been easy and lovely looking after the kids, you can bet your bottom dollar that he'll have more understanding of just how exhausting it can be. The first time I went away I found myself getting really worried and effectively sabotaging my own position by thinking that dh couldn't cope and I had better not go etc etc, because the kids wouldn't have their tea on time and things like that. Infact DH encouraged me to go and in the end I came back around midnight. Still, a day alone with the two kids was enough for dh to see what it was like. I found he had a much better understanding of life with two small kids. Much better than he would ever have found from verbal explanations from me -- one tired and slightly resentful mother about how busy her day has been....

Thanks for your sympathy - think I was having a bad day and just needed to get it off my chest! Feel better reading comments and knowing that we're not really alone. Thank you..

my partner works away 2 days every week. The only thing i dont like is we live in a big house and i get spooked at dark!! On the other hand though it works for me. i love the time alone with dd and we have more to talk about when he returns. He does go out socially sometimes too when he's away but i dont begrudge it! I'm not a saint but it all equals out when he lets me have a lie in on the weekends.....

Personally I think all you ladies with dh/dp that travel so much are to be hugely congratulated and never to be taken for granted.
Although being very pg at the mo doesn't help, I can't wait till dh gets home in the evening to give me a break. Also quite unusually dh has been away on buisness for the last two nights and won't make it back till late this evening, and it's been sooooo horrible here without him, hate sleeping on my own, and dd misses him so much too.

For what it's worth ladies I think you're all great

i think it depends on your personality too. Personally i love a bit of space

my dd sometimes rejects him when he gets back though which upsets him. I think she gets used to me solid for at least 48 hours then finds it hard to leave me! She's not clingy i just think she gets into a little routine

Mine used to do a job that involved a lot of travel/ nights out/ leaving early coming back late. It went on for 2.5 years when our children were very very tiny & I couldn't stand it. Eventually came to a head & he changed jobs & i went back to work part-time to make up the difference. perhaps not what I'd do now, but I couldn't bear being alone for so long. Not much better now as he works nights & is always asleep at weekends, so still feel like single parent.

My Husband Works away all week and comes home weekends We own our own business in the city and live 200km in the country we had never been apart before we chose this lifestyle. It took me over 2 years to get used to him not being here and it's been 5 yrs now. we have a large property and three children so far. I always feel like a single mum during the week. Now I run a playgroup and Mothers night every week. It can be hard at times but its the sacrifice you make for your family. I'm 30 now and we've been together for 15yrs He's my best friend and I miss him all the time. I know it won't be like this forever but while were both still young we gotta make the most of good income. I try not to call him during the week because it make it worse and you miss each other more and he doesn't need any more stress about whats happening at home.

Erm, this thread is SEVEN YEARS OLD!