Off to see an upset friend tomorrow to help plan for her wedding

[Chloe55]

I'm off over to see a good mate tomorrow who is getting married next June. She has had a bit of a hard time of it lately, she thinks her DP has lost interest in wedding (I think she is being a bit paranoid about this bit) and she has had a few bridesmaid issues. By which I mean the last time she had them over they told HER what they wanted to wear, how their hair would be etc etc. I am very touched that she has asked me over to help her and want to try and make her feel special.

She says she has got loads of maagazines and has bought a scrap book. I have printed a couple of things off the internet that she might want to include in her book but does anyone have any good ideas of what else I can suggest to her or give me ideas on how to remind her this wedding is all about HER and her DP, not self-centred bridesmaids!

How old are the bridesmaids? Dare I suggest that she might like to try and make the decisions concerning them with them having had discussions about what she would like and what they would be comfortable with. I'm sure she doesn't want them to be uncomfortable or feel that they look ridiculous - they might even have some good ideas.

We are all in our mid 20's. The maid of honour is being fantastic but the other 3 are being very selfish, I know how she is feeling - I had one of them as my bridesmaid and it was all me me me then. She has tried on 2 occassions to get them all together but ends up in tears when they leave because they are not taking what she wants into account. She is not confrontational and won't say anything to them even though me and her maid of honour have tried to tell her she must do. The maid of honour will be with us tomorrow night too.

When you have adult bridesmaids it needs to be give and take on both side and it doesn't sould like th 2 troublesome ones are giving anything. Find examples of the most hideous brdesmaids outfits you can and make up a fake scrap book for the bride to show them as if it's what she really really wants them to wear. They may be more amenable to diplomatic discussions after that! AT the very least, it'll give the bride a laugh

There was a fab link to a website posted here a while ago, something like www.uglyweddingdresses.com. Fantastic

That web address isn't right... I'll try and search it out.

What a fantastic idea Soup, that's a good way for her to bring up the subject without sounding all whiney about it too. Thanks!

Damn! The site has either moved or disappeared!

Don't worry I'll google it - something similar is bound to appear

Anyway, I'm sure you can come up with some monstrosities from the internet

Going bidal.com

uglydress.com

Thank you - been on both, printed off lots - excellent!

Soup - just in case you were interested I spent hours making my little scrap book for said friend with my DH, I'm soooo impressed with it - in fact I bet it's better than the real thing and no doubt she will be chuffed. Will make things more lighthearted anyway! So I just want to thankyou for your idea and info you posted for me. x

Now she just needs to show it to the annoying bridesmaids and scare them into accepting what she actually wants