we booked up for a weekend awy this Friday..we asked my mum to come so as well as having a hoiday too, she could help out with dd of an evening as myself and dp desperatly need to spent some quality time together and all this was explained to my mam.
s.i.l rang day i booked it and in excitment(no reason why not?), i told her about it.
she said thats the same week her dh was off and they were thinking of going to x(different place) for week.
anyway, they went to x on monday, only to come home as place was not as expected and they werent prepared to compromise.
she mentioned that they were thinking of going to 'Y'(the place we are going to), i quickly re iterated the fact we were going to have some time alone and that was why we asked my mum to join us, so she could help out with dd..she then said that they had only thought about it and would not be going.
so yesterday, getting stuff packed, dd(and all of us) getting excited about the break until last night when s.i.l rang while i was out and said they had actually booked up to come with us!, only a few steps away from our lodge and said that because her dd doesnt go to bed till after 8pm, we could take them both out late.
i am really gutted that she feels she is doing us a favour!, just because her dd stays up late, why does that mean i have to upset my dd's routine? and most importantly, why would you invite yourself on someone elses holiday, when they are said time and time again it was a break to spend time alone and as a family?
they came with us last year and it was a total shambles, we had to do everything they wanted, if we didnt, it was black looks and we held back doing things we wanted because they gave some excuse why they couldnt do it..we had to spend every waking minute with them and once when we ate out alone we got the third degree from her when we got back.
they constantly argued(well she shouted, he listend)and made an awful atmosphere and really made our holiday miserable apart from the few times we got alone, just the three of us.
she will also probably have the audacity to ask my mum to babysit her dd, so they can come out with us.
im not being a horrible person, we just wanted a break alone, me, dp, dd and dm so we could relax and have fun, now it will be a nitenare no matter what happens.
sorry, i know this is not a major thing compared to others probs, just gutted that were now gunna have a awful holiday