Has your dh/partner had a vasectomy?

[SPARKLER1]

I have mixed feelings about having another child. Probably leaning more towards not having another. I have told dh that I am coming off the pill at the end of the year so it's down to him to get himself booked in for the dirty deed.
He went for a consultation about two years ago and the doctor he saw was a bit of a strange guy and dh decided that he definitely wouldn't be going to him to have it done!!!! After all who can blame him - a man's private parts are very important to him aren't they? LOL

what are the doctors talking about? i was aware that a vasectomy could be reversed.....or am i wrong?

So how old do you have to be to be considered for one then?

It can be reversed, but that is NOT always successful, requires an operation under general anesthetic and is far from inexpensive. One should NEVER have a vasectomy w/the mindset, 'Well, I can have it reversed.' It is meant to be permanent and is treated as such.

I had a boyfriend in the US who had one at 25. He was himself a doctor - training to be a neurosurgeon. But he had severe bipoloar disorder which he struggled to control with medication and could demonstrate that it was inherited. He did NOT wish to pass his mental illness on to anyone, so he wishes to have a vasectomy were accommodated.

My ex-husband also had inherited clinical depression. He also wanted to climb 8000m peaks, and felt the risks that went along w/these goals and his obligation to do the best he could to stay alive if he had kids didn't mesh. So he had a vasectomy at 34.

Two female friends of mine had tubal ligations at 35. One had a daughter at 23 and had raised her as a single mum; the other had no children.

Oh right i see.

i think its hard to say wether it should be a personal desision, though i do think that if having a child in the first place should be a joint desision then mabe being sterelised should be the same.

i wouldnt make my dp get it done as to see your partener go through any op no matter how simple isnt that nice. Though if he wanted to do it then i would sit down with him and weigh up the pros and cons first.

sorry sp

my dp is only 27 by the way

I would never go through sterilisation. I think my body has been through enough now and that I've done more than my fair share. I have been on the pill for 17 years and been through two pregnancies and births. I think it's time that dh played a part now.

dh is being done next week. he he

I agree Sparkler. ANd I know I don't want anymore - I've got 3 gorgeous boys but that is enough. Just on the run up to dh's snip we, ahem, slipped up and I thought I could be pg. It really made me realise how much I didn't want to be. I had good pregnancies and easy births but I don't wnat to do it again. I'm glad I had that scare because now I know for sure.

DH got snipped aged 29. He has four children, my DSS and our three gorgeous girls.

He wanted to get snipped after DD2 cos he hated seeing me in so much pain during DD2's labour (which was grim btw) but I said that I wanted another so he agreed to respect my wish to have another.

Have said this on another thread but DH just cannot understand how any man would allow the woman he loves to continually abuse her body in order to prevent pregnancy once family is complete, when all that is required is a minor surgery to himself.

In both our opinions what makes a man is his ability to protect and provide for his family and satisfy his wife , not his ability to father unwanted children.

My DH got done a couple of weeks ago. I've had a coil for 9 years, and it was time for it to come out. So I went on the pill and told him he had a year to get sorted out. This was in March and it's taken until Sept to get him there and have it done.

It was always going to be our ultimate form of birth-control and it's just been a matter of time. I think if he'd wanted to have it done several years ago I wouldn't have wanted him to, because I might have thought then that I would want more children, however, we both know now that we don't want any more, so it was the right time.

Can't help feeling a bit sad though, although it has definitely been the right thing. Can't wait for the all-clear now, then I can come off the pil. I reckon all in all I will have been on the pill for the year that I said I would.

I understand that usually the man gets the all-clear after the two samples, however a friend of mine's husband had to give 16 samples before he got the all clear!!!

and also - like gbg - about a month ago I had to have anti-biotics and we didn't use condoms (cos the pharmacist said it would probably be ok), and the thought of being pregnant at that time, with the snip appointment waiting, was awful, and it made me realise that I really don't want any more children now, lovely as they are.

Guess I'll just wait for the grand-children to come along. Could be a while though, with ds1 age 12 and ds2 age 9!

He hasn't yet but will in a couple of months, so I can reliably tell you that it takes about 5 months on the NHS down here. An unfortunate name for his consultant though, Mr Pain.

My dh always said he'd have one. He felt that I'd taken care of contracption, been pregnant and delivered the children. Like you passionflower he watched me go through a terrible time having DD and being ill afterwards. He never wanted us to go through that again and was more than happy to do his "bit".