I'm going to come back as a bloke

[hmb]

Next Time I am coming back as a man! Today, along side the usual stuff I have taken the children on to get new shoes. This is always hellish and ds can be relied upon to throw a mamouth tantrum. I then went and bought a get well gift for Dh's Aunt. Them we bounght a new baby gift for Dh's cousin. Then we bought some presents for Dh's brothers step children, who are visiting today. Come home and packed the gifts. Then I stripped and re-made the guest bed for Dh's brother and wife. I blew up the mattresses for Dh's brothers step sons. then I cleaned the guest room. After that I made the food for tonight and have tried to entetain the children.

Now I suppose you could argue that I could leave all these things for Dh to do, but would they ever get done......

Why is it that on marriage I took on the role of organising my dh's life for him??? He seems to think that the pixies do all of this sort of stuff. Next time I'm going to be a bloke!

No joke i would too, i feel the same, i'm getting wed in just over a weeks time and who's done all the work? yes me! like always, in fact when it come down to the house and the children it's me that does everthing and all the running around. So i know how you feel i would 100% come back as a bloke, not to mention all all things we have to put up him being a woman in the frist place!!!!!

Too right - written instructions to d(?)h yesterday when I left for work.

Take dry washing off line, fold and leave on our bed.
Take sheets out of washing machine and put on line.
Empty dishwasher.

Did he do any of it? PAH!
Apparently he was too busy looking after dd!

we seem to do house work and look after children just fine why cant men, as i have the same reason gaven to me by other-half!!

Know exactly what you mean as apart from making sure food in the house etc have recently been to see people about mortgages (DH was away on business though) and booking holiday, arranging insurance, checking various details, will be doing most of the packing (apart from DH own stuff) and all that kind of stuff. And my DH is quite good generally (compared to others) will get food etc but usually has to ask what is needed and i say - dont you live here too!

Trouble is most of us women make a rod for our own backs by doing it ourselves! (to make sure it gets done)

Will still come abck as woman I think will just make sure that I bring with me :

The food fairies (the ones who stock cupboard and fridge)
The clothes fairies (the ones who wash iron and put away all laundry)
The Bed fairies (the ones who make bed each morning and then strip and change (handing to clothes fairies of course) the aforementioned bed every weekend)
The Mr Sheen Fairy and the Dyson Fairy will also pop in at least twice a week and Mr Muscle fairy will live in airing cupboard in bathroom.

DP actually noticed that I spent 6 hours cleaning and scrubbing house the other day - I know he noticed because he asked DD if the 'Fairies' had been!!

He on the other hand had spent day doing male bonding (Golf & Arsenal!!).

At the end of the day I would rather have fairies and be a mum I think - would hate to have to shave everyday too!

If I came back as a bloke would I have to watch tv all day and find farting funny?

I just console myself with the fact that if I can cope with the kids and housework etc then I can be really smug when it comes up in conversation

Dh accuses me of being a bloke bird if I nag him about helping in the house so as his mother is arriving this weekend I doing absolutely sod all -house will remain a tip Iin the midle of lift conversion) and she can eat take aways. Don't like her so there!! I am going to yoga and leaving her and him with dd and ds. Ds is almost 11 mths and dh has never looked after him on his own. Pleeese don't talk to me about men - I've never liked them but as I am heterosexual have had to put up with them.

No not lift, loft conversion. Though a lift would be nice now I come to think of it.

And hmb I notice you got it all done before 2 o'clock.... If I leave DH in charge of the kids they're lucky to be DRESSED by 2 never mind out of the house, jobs done, return home housework done.....

Yes, women are amazing!! I saw Dh sit down to have a phone call coversation with his brother yesterday! I mean, when did you last sit down and talk on the phone??? Chat on the phone and peal spuds, yes, do the ironing, yes, sort out scrapping kids, yes, even wipe the odd bum while continuing to chat, But sit down??? Never!

Can men not multitask or something??

Had a good laugh reading this. My dp is great with dd and on a weekend gets up at 6.30-7 with her and lets me have a lie in...BLISS....i always come down thogh to find every utensil in the kitchen out on shelves...toys EVERYWHERE and both still in pj's.....Bless! It's worth it though....

Good for you Queenie! Leave the house in a state. Of course your MIL will probably blame YOU for the mess.

I think it is a well known scientific fact that men can't multi-task. Nor can they get up at night if baby cries. They are busy sleeping you see.....

I was a PA for 15 years which is very good training for marriage!! My husband does all the cooking and does it very well. More men seem to cook these days as I have a couple of other friends whose husbands cook, including one who does ALL the GFCF stuff for their son...!!!

And why is it that if there is something in the house that needs doing, if I mention it I am nagging, but if he mentions it, it is a "new family policy".

And why do I have to agree that he is a "good boy" (yes, this is an adult I'm talking about) for doing the washing up etc.?

In defence of the blokes...

I do laugh at DH cos he can't do anything else while looking after dd, but then he never gets the practice does he. He's great about taking over as soon as he gets in from work, and putting her to bed, and about getting up early on Saturday and taking her out for a few hours on Sunday afternoon. But still, thats about 8 hours a week alone with her, to my 65. And it took me a couple of months to learn to do other things while looking after her.

DH is out of the house for 12.5 hours a day at work and does dd's bedtime when he gets in, and will cook after that if I haven't. So I don't mind the fact that he has to ask me for instructions every time he uses the washing machine... (at least he does use it occasionally!). I guess I look on the housework and organising our lives as my job - I can get it all done in the time that DH is out at work and still have time to do 'me' things like put dd in creche and go swimming, or meet my friends. And he is willing to get up at 6am and commute to London and do a job that I would hate, so that I could be here when dd took her first steps (he missed them). So I'm quite happy to be his PA.

I do make him mow the lawn and change the lightbulbs and put up the stairgates... Is this sexist or is it just a division of labour that suits us?

I'm here for the men, I work 5 days a week, daytime hours, so I get to see my boys for helf hour in the morning if I'm lucky, then about an hour at night before they go to bed, so when I do get to spend the day with them I dont want to be having to do house work, i would rather spend every monment with them and there toys .

Please don't tell my husband that you can do other things while looking after babies, I've convinced him I can't!

Boe, where do you get all these fairy's from as they never seem to appear at my house.

I do try to do my bit but it is difficult when you work 5-7 days a week doing upto 12 hours a day.

I can multi task though, many a time I have fed DD whilst cleaning up the remains off the previous course that have somehow gotten shot over the kitchen floor. Or cooked a meal whilst still playing with her.

My comment were supposed to be taked with a large pinch of salt In other posts I have made the point that dh is great with the kids, and does quite a bit around the house as well as working. I just find it amusing that in almost every couple that I know all the keeping in touch, sending /buying presents, organising christmas stuff defaults to the women. And this seems to hold even when both parents work outside the home. I even buy all Dhs clothes for him. How many women get all their shopping done my their dh/dp?? (also ment tongue in cheek)

It does seem to hold true hmb. My DH informs me that this is the primary reason for having a wife. I assume that this was also to be taken with a pinch of salt or he would have found his belongings spread across the pavement.

I actually get some satisfaction out of it and originally took it all on quite willingly. But it does make me laugh the performance he makes about buying and wrapping my Christmas present while I've managed to do all of both families, his, DS, a shoebox etc.