what would you do

[imaregularandnotatroll]

ive changed my name for this as i dont want anyone i know to read it

basically my sted dad is a prick and used to really bully me. The other day i was speaking to my mum about how much make up my little sister wears and she told me something that made me really angry. my sd saw sis with make up on and instead of telling her to take it off (shes 14) he boiled the kettle got a cloth and scrubbed her face. my mum was on nightshift at the time and he has not addmited it to her although i can quite believe it. every now and again he has to get an ego trip which either involes kicking me out (he cant do this anymore) or doing something really nasty to one or all of us dont think he really care who it is. hes just a bully but dont know what to do think ill phone sis and see what she says happened.
does any1 have any advice. in my opinion it abuse

I'm not sure wiping someones face with a cloth can be labelled as abuse, unless he scalded her skin or something. He does sound like a moron, sounds like your Mum needs to do something about his behaviour.

he used the water out the kettle didnt cool it down or anything

How did he do that without burning himself?

that is bad. I would say it more assault than abuse. Has your sister got marks on her skin from it ? Has she told your Mum ? What has she said she will do to prevent it from happening again ?

He didn't exactly 'wipe' her face with a cloth though- he scrubbed a 14yr old's face with a flannel dipping in very hot water. He could have told her to go and wash his face, but instead he exerted his authority physically. That's bullying.

dont know if there are marks havent seen her yet. my mum is a wimp when it comes to him she couldnt do anything when he kicked me out he barred my number and told my mum she wasnt allowed to talk to me. hes over 20 stone a buly and my mum is a quiet person who is far too forgiving

You need to make it clear to your Mum that his behaviour is unacceptable. I think she is the only person in a position to do anything about it. Short of you having your sister living with you.

good point mp it'd have to be cool enough for him to hold the cloth.

Get your sister to call Childline and get some advice.

he doesnt have much feeling in his hands he uses water out the kettle to wash the dishes on the very rare occasions he does them

Bugger his hands. If he actually used boiling water straight out of the kettle, it's assault, whether he's got absbestos hands or not.

But I think you need to find out exactly what's happened. If it happened the way she said it did, with water straight out of the kettle, I'd report him to the police. They may not have enough evidence to press charges, but it may drive home the message to him that he's not going to be free to assault your sister with impunity.

asbestos even