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Can you get Council housing in places other than that where you live?

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CleverFlossam · 15/09/2005 08:17

Just wondering really. I don't think I'm happy enough in my relationship atm, could just wait untill May but not sure I can with the way I am feeling atm. Wouldn't want to be stuck up here though, would rather be nearer my family. Just so I can think things through and see where I am when/if my PMT wears off...

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SherlockLGJ · 15/09/2005 08:23

Not sure Floss, why don't you ring the council closest to your family and see what their policy is.

Is "arse of this parish" acting up again. ??

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CleverFlossam · 15/09/2005 08:30

I don't know LGJ. I don't know how much of it is me being tired and grumpy and how much of it he is causing. Does that make any sense? All I do know is on Tuesday I did not like him, yesterday I did not like him and today I really don't like him. The three days before that I was at work. Can't even remember what happened last week now I'm so tired!

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SherlockLGJ · 15/09/2005 08:32

Wait until this feeling passes, and then decide, but DO NOT even consider moving nearer to his folks until you feel the relationship is more stable.

That is an order BTW

LadyTophamHatt · 15/09/2005 08:33

Another mum at school is hoping to move nearer her mum through the council, they can do it and are on the list but even with quite extreme medical reasons they have a 5 yr wait

If they didn't have the medical resons they would be waiting upto 12 years

The area they want to move to is a sea side town so maybe that is why they'd have such a long wait, but I suspect where ever you go you'd be put right at he end of the list so could be waiting eons.

Flossam · 15/09/2005 08:41

Thought it would be something awful like that. I'd have no reason to be back there really. My mum wants to move that way but hasn't yet. I could work in the area, but no job as yet. I just don't want to be stuck up in Barking in a tower block. Not that I have anything against tower blocks per se, just not here! We are both on the contract to rent this place until May, he wouldn't be able to afford the rent on his own, meaning we would be liable for all costs of finding a new tenent. I think I'm just going to have to try and work even more if the work is available, stash some money, see him even less. Unfortunately that means seeing less of DS too. My night of indulgence didn't really work did it? Didn't even manage to indulge - only wanted one glass of wine and a few spoonfuls of ice cream...

Frizbe · 15/09/2005 09:17

Yes you can, being in the midlands, we've seen loads of people who are mainly moving north, from London way, arrive in the recent years!

Flossam · 15/09/2005 09:22

I want to go the other way! But thanks for that Frizbe. The sensible side of me is just saying that I should wait untill (if he gets the job) we go to Bristol next year. I will always be wondering if life will be better there as I have said before. Just at the moment I seem to be bordering on feeling hate and resentment towards him and it's not a nice way to live.

expatinscotland · 15/09/2005 09:29

Depends. Some councils make you prove a 'connection' to the area where you want to go - family who will provide childcare, ill relatives, a job, etc.

PeachyClair · 15/09/2005 09:48

As far as I recall Floss (at I may be well off), legislation was introduced that menat people from other areas had just as much right to be on a housing list anywhere they wanted, no preference for the locals.

Sorry to hear you've got problems again. Where you looking at- Yeovil? Bristol? Whereever it is, I'd get on the list now, think later: lists can take ages to produce a house.

Flossam · 15/09/2005 09:59

Hmm thanks. I'd much rather go to Bristol PC! Beggars can't be choosers and all but job prospects better and some cost of living payments. DP's family are in Bristol, but as LGJ has said, they aren't really a reason to go back (although we might be going to stay with the sis in a couple of weeks!). Would be able to get a job I'm sure.

I think TBH PC, this has a lot to do with me being back at work proper, we are both tired and short tempered. I haven't had one of my much needed lie ins for at least 11 days so far, and am not going to get one for another 8 days. This has put me in rather bad spirits! (Did 3 long days, full time hours basically over the weekend and I have always needed a long time in bed to recover) DP's had two in 7 days, and got home from his night shift over an hour early this morning. But refused to get up with DS for half an hour so I could have a bit more kip. Also dropped the bomb shell that he shall now be at work for the day before I have to go on a night next week, so will have to be up for ridiculous amounts of hours when I will still be exhausted!

Cross with him for not telling me. He thought it was written on his shift rota for me, but it wasn't and he didn't bother to check. What it I had been on a day shift? Can't swap shifts now as am on a night the next night too. He is just in his own little world completely shut off from everyone outside of it. Shallow and hardly a reason to end it all I know but there has been so much in recent days. I can't cope with him atm. He's driving me mad.

Rant over. Sorry. You must all now be convinced I am a lazy nutter of the highest degree!

PeachyClair · 15/09/2005 11:00

Nah you're not a nutter, we get this too when we're tired. I get really moody / tearful and DH gets edgy and stressy, which always combusts! We're facing about of this Monday... DH at carnival float 9 - 10 today (plus 1.5 hours each way), 9- ??? 4am ish? tomorrow, back in Bridgwater by ten a.m. Saturday, carnival in Axminster that night, Sunday night he is at work (sleeping most of Sunday!), then Monday I have to be at Uni to enrol so he HAS to babysit youngest as childminders starts Tuesday (typically), then work Monday night.....

Rubbish aim't it? But it's real life!

Flossam · 15/09/2005 11:17

Yup. At work Sat-Mon. Tue was his b day. Back into work for a few hours weds. Then he was on a night last night. On nights until Monday morning now. Then up first thing on tues and hopefully home before I have to leave for work. Then at work again weds night. Get up thurs pm, he's at work first thing friday for another 5 days. Then we might have a few days away while he has his interview, then back to work for me again! Have you started your course yet? How is DH doing?

SherlockLGJ · 15/09/2005 11:29

Not in my nature to defend "arse of this parish", but to be fair, could he have fallen out of the habit of considering two rotas, since you have only just gone back to work full time so to speak.??

Mark this day down, as it probably wont happen again.

Flossam · 15/09/2005 11:31

Don't think so LGJ as I have been back one way or another since the end of June. Not normally doing quite so many hours at at time though. I realise I am probably being a monster to live with but I can't help it!!

Flossam · 15/09/2005 11:35

Like you say though, not for so many hours. I had to go back into work yesterday for a few hours (plus the travelling back and from) because he throw all his toys out of the pram about having to stay up with DS for the day before his night shift. I've had to do it and while far from ideal its possible. However, now I'm going to have to do it again next week all because he didn't think to check to see if I knew about it. It could have been avoided, seeing as he finds it so impossible, why can't he return the favour? Sorry. I'll shut up now. It was always going to be hard with two shift workers and trying to manage the childcare between us, wasn't it?

PeachyClair · 15/09/2005 16:54

Dh is a lot better thanks Floss, holiday made a difference. he's looking for a day job now, we came to the conclusions he isn't able for shifts, and when he gets low-ish he takes a day or two off. OK it's not great for his career prospects, but he's much easier to be with now!

College starts Monday. Wish me luck!!!!

nutcracker · 15/09/2005 17:01

You would be moving in order to recieve support from family so yes you could.

Flossam · 15/09/2005 19:21

Good luck PC. Thanks NC. Will wait and see how the interview goes week after next first. If good then will give new life a try with as much gusto as I can muster. If not so good then will consider putting name down on some lists if they will have me. I suppose the council dosen't need to know I don't plan to be having much to do with the family that are there - do I?

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