did I do the right thing? Perv alert

[mieow]

Me and my mum took Connor and Bethan swimming today at the local disabled swimming club today. There is a lot of adults there with different
problems, from physical to mental. Had a lovely swim and Bethan actually let go of my mum and swam about. Afterwards we went to get
changed, its a mixed changing room with cubicals. Anyway we got the kids dressed and I had just got dressed and my mum was pulling her
top on when I saw one of the male members pop his head over the top......... This man makes me feel uneasy anyway and Connor doesn't like him at all. I told the lady that runs the club and she said that I should point him out next time. I know that he may have a mental problem but I can't let it slip. It shocked me and made me
feel sick. I know he didn't see anything, but did I do the right thing?

I think you did the right thing. Even if he has mental problems that kind of behaviour is not fair on others.

It's better dealt with now that it keep happening, or get worse. I'm sure that the people at the club will be experienced with dealing with that kind of thing.

I think you did the right thing. Once you point him out, the lady who runs the club should know if he has any mental problems to explain his behavior. She can have a quiet word with him explaining that it's not appropriate to do that without starting a "witch hunt" IYSWIM.

Also if he genuinely doesn't know it's inappropriate he needs to know and to learn this. You did the right thing IMO.

totally agree with all that's been said already mieow so stop feeling like you may have done the wrong thing - you did NOT.

Yes yes yes you did.

Yes, you probably did the right thing, but I don't think you perhaps should have titled this thread 'Perv Alert' as he may well have not been. My brother has mental difficulties and this is something he may well have done himself, especially if he were looking for my mum. He may well also make you and your ds feel uneasy as he looks fine, but you do get the impression with him that there is something wrong. He stares at people sometimes with his mouth open and talks readily to children. His mental age is 7, so his behaviour is appropriate to a child, but not an adult man.

I would report it yes, but please don't worry too much about the incident. If this man does have mental health problems, it was probably an accident and he won't be a perv.

I realised that he has mental problems, but he was there alone and makes me feel uneasy. I didn't jump out the cubicle and pull him up on it. I finished getting our stuff together and quietly told the lady that runs the group. I haven't been put off taking my children (DS has physical problems, DD2 has pysical and mental problems) I realised that we were there at a DISABLED group, but would your brother be at a group without supervision, like this man is every week.? And I also understand that he may not have realised that it was wrong. Sorry if I offended you Rhubarb

Yes, he would be part of a group without individual supervision. No offence taken Miaow, I just know how easy it is for these things to happen. I know how uneasy my bro makes people feel sometimes, and in their shoes I would probably react in the same way. I guess in this instance I just reacted to the title 'Perv Alert'. Glad you got it all sorted anyway.