does anyone else count the hours until dp/dh is home?

[spikeycat]

I'm finding it increasingly hard to keep myself and ds amused during the day (he's 8 months) and I have lost count the amount of times I have looked at the clock today counting the hours until dp is here to take some of the load off.

turn the tv on, or radio 4

been parked in front of the tv, sick of it now. ds is cheesed of as its hot, and I CAN NOT BE ARSED TO TAKE A WALK AS ITS TOO HOT...neither can I be arsed to retype where caps lock started off!

you did sound a bit shouty!! I am crap with caps too.

Its the age of your baby - I used to find it very monotonous.. still find it so when alone with ds3 aged 4.5 months.

When they start moving and asking why and wanting cbeebies on you will chuckle!

There would be a lot of hours to count...

Think I am just tired as well, cos I am 9 weeks pg.... this time next year I will be seriously insane!

spikeycat go and run a bath of cool water. Jump in with ds, and chill out - literally!

just thinking that, we just went for a walk (why) and then hads to come home and sit in front if the fan for 10 mins!

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spikeycat, i can remember that feeling so well. I used to start counting as soon as he walked out the door in the morning !
My boys are now 5 and 2 and I now pray dh won't come through the door before they're in bed. That means that a) I get 5 minutes to myself and b) he won't get them worked up into a frenzy just before bedtime when they are supposed to be calming down.

lisalisa - I promise I'm not stalking you

he's just rang to say he'll be late.... hmmmmmmm

I count the hours till he go back TO work LOL!!!!!!!!!

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that's why we're always the bad ones and daddy is always the fun guy. Makes me sooo mad.

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I used to be just the same. I had no family, no friends who were available to visit me and my dh worked 6 days a week 12 hours a day. I would just stare at my 4 walls and some days I would become quite desperate. I really didn't have a thing to do and there was no escape from the boredom. We were short of money as well so I couldn't plan anything and having no transport, well ... you can imagine. I could tell you the exact time in minutes and seconds till my dh would get home. It does get better as they get older, but I had to wait until ds was 2 and a half and started at playgroup to have some normal structure to the day. Now playgroup has finished for the summer I'm back to counting the minutes but this time I have a 3 year old screaming at me. try to organise small things to do, plan the next day, like say in the morning we will go the park and be back for lunch, then we will go swimming etc. Even small pointless trips to local supermarkets can take the burden of boredom off you. You don't give any indication as to whether this is really bothering you or if its just occasional boredom, but if it is as bad as my problem got, then swallow your pride and ask family and friends to help, even if you think that you may be bothering your mum with the 5th visit of the week just do it if it keeps you sane.

he's been back and buggered off out again to a family party (no babysitter as I had not been told about it).
Wonder sometimes if I should just be on my own, that way at least I don't get disapointed

Mine rings me on the way home and so when he gets back we sit there like weirdos with nothing to say apart form totell him off for flicking..IYKWIM

I know that feeling. It gets better, honest. Ds will happily potter in the garden or listen to a music CD or wander around in the kitchen while I do something alongside him (eg drink glass of wine). Rigged up a 'tent' in the garden for him to have picnics with his toys, which he likes. Said tent is just a sheet over two chairs, but hey, he knows no better. However, took him with me to a cafe for a 'relaxing' glass of wine before going home, and he just kept dragging on my skirt, saying 'Mama - OFF! (the chair) Look at light!" and generally making it not v relaxing at all. In short, Spikey, it's really normal (esp as in our house dh does the bath) and 8months is a tricky age to entertain IMO.

Spikeycat .... you sound so fed up. I know how you feel ... I used to wait at the front door when I was expecting DH home and as soon as he walked in I would hand him DS and go and lock myself up in the bedroom with my book.
My DS is nearly 4 and I still count the minutes! Recently it has been really hard as I have just had 3 weeks of my DH coming home for half an hour and then going out again to see clients at least 3 times a week so have been feelin very lonely too. It is boring but it does get better when they get older because you can start having conversations with them (the kids, not the DHs ).
Do you belong to an NCT group or Antenatal/postnatal group? What I used to try and do when my DS was little was go out at least once a day ... either in the morning or the afternoon .... even if it is for a short walk to the shop ...

well, he got home around 10ish in the end, v impressed not!
Today we are going to meet sil for lunch in town and then off to visit my grandparents - so should be a better day - I hope.
I don't belong to any groups and didn't go to any antenatal classes with ds so don't know any other mums locally.
I asked the midwife if I can go this time and she said no, the only thing I can attend is a 1/2 hour reminder session, so I don't even get to meet any mums this time!

Been waiting two months!!!

spikeycat, why can't you go to antenatal classes this time? I am and it's my second. Ask again. I do think your dh was highly unreasonable to come home and go straight out btw.

sorry forestfly, I guess i am being a bit trivial in comparison to some problems - how are you doing these days?