My Dad says he's not coming to my wedding - anyone else had this?

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It's because he invited some of his friends without consulting me. We have a guest list for the day time of 85 for a room which can hold 70 at most so are faced with pruning guest list.

I've told Dad 4 of the 8 friends he invited won't be able to come (still welcome to ceremony and evening do)as they are his friends rather than mine, I have met them but don't know them.

He has flipped and said I am deliberatly humiliating him (wtf?) and he's not coming to the wedding.

I'm not desperately upset, but feel more weary about dealing with another Dad tantrum yet again and highly resentful of being forced into the adult to his child role.

I'm sure this is pretty standard wedding related argument stuff but my Dad is the most stubborn man on earth. He had a similar falling out with his parents over their Golden Wedding celebration it ended with him not speaking to them and refused to make it up even when they were both terminally ill. They died without him ever speaking to them again.

Anybody else had a similar experience or got a similarly pig-headed, sulky, controlling parent?

Do not let him spoil your day no matter what. you try to make peace now wait the ball is in his court so to speak.

My mother refused to come to our wedding two weeks before,( following a arguement that we cannot remember now.) Dh and Df sorted it out so that she would be there but she spent the whole day sulking and may everyone aware that she was sulking, Now 9.5 yrs later it is all forgotten. But amny attempt sot rule our lives and our Dc is planned for as a family we have contingence to cope with it.

Sharklet that's really sad, especially mean that he didn't let you know. Hope you had a good day in spite of it though.

I had a row with my ex's parents a few weeks before our wedding ( about her not knowing the colour of the bridesmaids dresses ffs!!) and they decided that they wouldn't come.

Ex told me that unless I apologised, he would come to the ceremony, but wouldn't feel 'comfortable' at the meal if his parents weren't there so he would go home after the church!

So I apologised - yes I know stupid cretin!!

And when he made his speech he talked for ages about his wonderful parents and never even bloody mentioned me

Are you surprised he's my ex?

lilibet

lillibet

what an a/hole.

i remember the day you left your ex, lilibet. you are well rid of that shower of s*e.

Thanks for that bossyk, couldn't agree more

but diss, I think you should 'to thine own self be true', this wedding is about you and dp, go with what you both want and ignore the selfish f*rs who want to go their own way. This is your day, no one elses and if you and dp are in agreement about things thats more than half the battle!

BTW, dh says that I have to tell you that the second one was much better!!

Jeezus! Nightmare. He'll come round. Just leave him to stew. How thoughtless.