adult friendships affected by children's

[thirtysomething]

Just wondering whether other people find their adult friendships affected by the children's behaviour - I have several friends who I have met via my children, ie my children were friends with their children first. Sometimes we become really good friends with loads in common and then the children stop being good friends, as children do, and it becomes quite hard to maintain the adult friendship as the children don't get on - one friend in particular has become quite hostile to my ds as she always sees him as the guilty party when he and her ds fall out, and try as I might I find it hard to like her as much when she is being nasty about my ds! Does anyone else have this problem?

oh yes,my ds is autistic and plays only with one other boy in our street.They are both the same age but the other boy is becoming an extremely nasty piece of work especially as ds problems become more apparent,the supposed friend is bullying and just generally being a little brat towards ds.His mum and i are relatively friendly but i find when her ds is being utterly nasty i just want to grab her and say get a grip of your child before i punch his and your head in,GGGGGGGGGGGGGRRRRRRRRRRR!! such a defensive mother and the thing is she knows of my ds problems but still sits back as her ds runs riot and picks on mine.