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dh worried about dd seeing his 'whatsit'

18 replies

juice · 28/08/2005 12:04

hi all. dh is worried about dd seeing his winky. she is only just turned 1. he has baths with her.
he just wondered the other day if it was right for her to see 'it'.

personally i think there is nothing wrong with it. she has to learn that there is a difference between boys and girls. i told him this and i think he agrees with me.

i was just wondering what everyone else thought. thanks

OP posts:

MarsLady · 28/08/2005 12:06

nothing wrong with her seing it.

it's all part of the body. She won't make a fuss if you don't make a fuss!

WigWamBam · 28/08/2005 12:11

I don't think there's anything wrong with her seeing it, either.

alexsmum · 28/08/2005 12:19

nothing wrong at all. its when you stop kids seeing their parents naked, that the body becomes something mysterious and dare i say it ' exotic?'

if she knows what bodys look like she won't be in a rush to satisfy curiousity when shes older!

lemonice · 28/08/2005 12:20

I think it's a matter for individual judgement, I don't think there is a problem in this relationship and this age but if he is anxious and uncomfortable about it then maybe he should not have baths with her just enjoy her bath times.

Mytwopenceworth · 28/08/2005 12:22

I think it is a matter of personal preference. I don't like my boys seeing me with nothing on, and neither does my dh. If the boys were to catch one of us we wouldn't squeal and rush to cover ourselves in a panic or anything but would quickly get something on! But neither of us would just 'let it all hang out' in front of them! That's what we are most comfortable with.

Mytwopenceworth · 28/08/2005 12:23

Besides, with my figure - the boys would end up scarred for life!!!

alexsmum · 28/08/2005 12:39

i like to think that by seeing me naked my boys will realise that not all women are the airbrushed lovelies they will see all over the place- in the media.
and other women will be a pleasant surprise!

skerriesmum · 28/08/2005 13:03

This is an interesting topic. Our ds is 2.5 and regularly sees us both naked (briefly, when changing clothes or just coming out of the shower... we don't regularly parade around in the nude.) Dh's parents always were casual about nudity, but I have never ever seen my dad and only my mum rarely (in communal showers when swimming). Is it better to stop a boy seeing his mum naked before puberty?

frannyf · 28/08/2005 13:35

I'm interested to see what other people think of this. My son (2.4) thinks his dad's willy is very interesting and funny. Whenever watching his dad wee a public toilet he says loudly "Daddy, can I touch your willy?". Cue major embarrassment from his dad.

Cooperoo · 28/08/2005 13:46

This is interesting. My dd1 is 2.5 and regularly sees me and DH naked. DH baths with her every day and she is always in my room as I get dressed etc. I haven't given it any thought. It seemed quite normal to me, but what age should it stop? I don't want to embarrass her but I want her to be comfortable with bodies too. DH is completely unfazed by bodies and I know his parents were naked around him until about 8 (just in baths etc not parading). My parents covered up more as I have had a (wonderful)stepdad from the age of three and so they felt they should be more private. Hmmmm.

Chandra · 28/08/2005 13:58

I can mention what you can expect for the future: DH was brought up like that, with the idea that all was natural and was used to see people naked through all his meditterranean resort life. He has a very healthy and natural attitude towards sex, the downside is that he doesn't understand now why on Earth do I get so annoyed when he forgets to close the curtains before walking comando all around the house. One day we are going to have a problem with the neighbours.... So... I think that I will introduce a limit reg nakedness with DS some time in the future.

peaceandlight · 28/08/2005 14:41

so at what age would you say a mum should start covering up in front of her son?

FairyMum · 28/08/2005 14:51

we don't worry about being naked in front of our children and DS1 once proudly told his nursery teachers that "daddy has a huge willy". My DH was of course really plaased. My DD is 7 and I think it's fine to be naked in front of her, but I know there will be a point where I feel like covering up in front of my sons. I think it will be when the children themselves naturally will start to want their privace both for themselves and from their parents. I think for my I was around 10 when I started to think grown-up bodies was a bit yukkie and it lasted all through puberty.

swiperfox · 28/08/2005 14:56

I'm glad someone has started this as i was wondering about it the other day. DD is 3.8 now and sees me and her dad, although i make more of an effort not to be naked as i'm more uncomfortable with it, dp is very comfortable with it and will sometimes come downstairs naked and get his underwear on downstairs and dd will quite often ask to jump in the shower with him so dd sees him all the time. She is not at all phased by it though and is actually very reluctant to get dressed and loves running around naked!!

I like the idea that she isn't silly about it like i was and afraid to be undressed but also wonder when he should be thinking about covering up

skerriesmum · 28/08/2005 18:11

I think it's healthy and good for same-sex parents and children to see each other naked whenever... but of course there will probably come a time when they won't want to! And routines will change, they won't be up as early and just walk into the bedroom all the time.
Come to think of it my parents were quite private about their bedroom, I wasn't encouraged to go in there, and we always had to knock first.

Twiglett · 28/08/2005 18:14

I think if they were still sharing baths at 7 or 8 it might be a problem but she's his baby

nakedness in front of children is fine IMO

Skribble · 28/08/2005 18:26

My DD is nearly 6 and doesn't bat an eyelid when DH is nuddy. DS nearly 9 still wanders about nuddy after his shower but is a bit more modest now say on the beach or changing in shops.

Cooperoo · 28/08/2005 19:04

Lol Chandra - Your DH sounds like mine! He would be much happier to go around naked at all times and thinks if people see him in his house they shouldn't be looking. I think it is a good point made by people that the children tend to take the lead rather than there being an age as such. Having read these posts I feel I have a few more years before I have to worry about it. I do remember seeing my Dad's once though and being really and I don't want my dd's to have that surprise.

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