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Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr - how would you feel if .......?

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Bugsy2 · 26/08/2005 11:04

your ex-husband's girlfriend's mother cut a fringe into your daughter's hair, when you have deliberately NEVER cut a fringe?
I am really angry and feel that it was not for this woman to make a decision about my daughter's hair style.
Would you feel the same or am I being over-sensitive?

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HappyMumof2 · 26/08/2005 11:21

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Blu · 26/08/2005 11:28

I think you do have to look at it a teeny bit from the dad's perspective, he is her Dad. One of her two parents.
Yes, I would be furious on a visceral level, as Twiglett says, but you risk being seen as mad hysterical birth mother if you go ott.

I went mad when my DP cut DS's curls off, and we're tigether, so I do sympathise, believe me, but you have to look at it objectively, too.

I would WANT to cut 'bangs' into ex's pubes, but it isn't the dignified response.

He should have consulted you. You can make that clear in a way that makes him feel guilty.

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Bugsy2 · 26/08/2005 11:31

Big Sigh, yes it is probably an issue with ex-H. He knows that I have arduously grown her hair so that she wouldn't have a fringe - she has a tiny face and I didn't think a fringe would suit her - I bloody know it doesn't now!!!!!!!!!!!!
I don't know whether this woman, asked ex-H or just went off & did it. I will probably never know because ex-H is such a liar. Little dd is only 3.5, so is not bothered one way or another.

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chloe55 · 26/08/2005 11:31

Does your daughter like the new style? I'd be mad but if she likes it......? I'd probably say something to your ex though to make sure something like this doesn't happen again.

HappyMumof2 · 26/08/2005 11:32

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HappyMumof2 · 26/08/2005 11:33

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Twiglett · 26/08/2005 11:34

Little faces look really sweet with pixie hair?

spidermama · 26/08/2005 11:36

I would be absolutely incandescant with rage bugsy. Just hearing about it is enough.

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Bugsy2 · 26/08/2005 11:37

This is the email I have sent to ex-H:
"I would like to say that I do not think it was appropriate for T's mother to cut dd's hair. I have spent the last three years NOT cutting a fringe into dd's hair. If T's mother felt that dd's hair was falling into her eyes then she could have put a clip in her hair to keep it back, like I do. How would you feel if my brother's girlfriend took it upon herself to dye ds's hair?"

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Blu · 26/08/2005 11:38

If he knew that you had v sytrong feelings about no fringe, then I would be very cross and ask why he had deliberately undermined all the efforts to grow it out.

On the other hand, men don't seem to 'get' hair and why on earth it matters what style it is, so hard to know what his degree of true guilt is.

spidermama · 26/08/2005 11:38

Just a thought ...
Once my dd came home from pre-school with her fringe cut. She said a teacher did it. I complained the next day but they all vehemently denied it. It's quite probable she, or a friend, did it.

Twiglett · 26/08/2005 11:39

nicely restrained email, well done

Blu · 26/08/2005 11:40

That's a very good e mail, Bugsy.

chloe55 · 26/08/2005 11:40

I think that is appropriate and straight to the point Bugsey. At least he is aware you are p*ssed off now but I'd try not to get into a drawn out slgging match about it and probably just await his reply (hopefully and apology) and leave it at that.

fireflyfairy2 · 26/08/2005 11:42

I'd have written a far stronger worded email than that! I know, i know.. it won't make herhair grow back any quicker... but it'd clear my belly anyway!
I know exactly what you mean growing her hair out... just like mine for the past 3.5 yrs too! My girl is blonde and has a wee round face.. a fringe looked awful on her... I have been growing it out now since her first hair cut where she had a fringe cut it

Oh i'm sure you feel like slapping someone... i know i do and it's not my DD! I remember my Father cut my neices hair whilst my sister was at work.. my sister cried when she saw it.. and she didn't speak to either of my parents for a very long time!

rickman · 26/08/2005 11:48

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moondog · 26/08/2005 11:51

At least the silly bint was a blood relative rickman,although obviously still bloody annoying.

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Bugsy2 · 26/08/2005 11:54

Like you Rickamn, I keep waiting for him not to constantly piss me off!!!!!!!!!!!! I keep thinking that at some point he will stop bullying me, harrassing me and inferring that I do not bring our children up properly.
My list of whinges is endless and actually the haircut thing is only a small thing, which is why I don't want to kick off too much about it, as it distracts from the far more fundamental stuff. Huge sigh.............

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madmarchhare · 26/08/2005 11:57

LOL Moondog

rickman · 26/08/2005 12:00

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mumtosomeone · 26/08/2005 12:02

how would you feel if mil did this?

melissasmummy · 26/08/2005 16:09

Don't think I could tell you what I'd do.....

melissasmummy · 26/08/2005 16:16

It would be different had HE done, or taken her to a hairdresser, still not right tho.

BUT for his g/f's mother to do it? That is way over the line.

I get livid when my aunt suggests cutting DD's hair!

Tortington · 27/08/2005 13:57

i would look in the telephone directory for a man called "mario" specialiaing in carrying a violin case i would ask Mario how much it would be to cut someone down to size - starting with her kneecaps.

hey thats just me

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