Hello, I'm new here and was looking for some advice.
I have been seeing my girlfriend for around three months now and things are going very well. However, my GF's ex is an alcoholic with no job. He pays no maintenance toward GF's little girl and also pays no money toward to the mortgage.
He insists that the house is his despite it having both his and the GF's name on the mortgage and regularly kicks up a fuss about me being in the house. Generally I spend about three nights a week at the house.
Their divorce has not gone through and proceedings cannot start for a month or two.
He is occasionally polite and reasonable but often requests to see the little girl on very short notice via email which is not always practical as other arrangments have been made and when he is told he cannot see her on such late notice his demenour changes completely and he goes off on stroppy, semi adolescent rants and threatens to have some kind of legal action taken out against me and that he'll essentially have pop at me if he sees me at the house again.
Now I'm not really taking these threats too seriously but obviously it's not particularly enjoyable and it is upsetting to my GF and myself. He has a new girlfriend and invariably spends time with her and her two children when he has hs daughter.
I understan the he must find it difficult to see his little girl developing a friendship/relationship with his Ex's new partner but he deals with it so badly that I've got now idea how to open some kind of dialogue and assuage some of his fears. Perhaps it might be best not to.
Generally speaking he is just a massive pain in the arse and we were just wondering what options we have to deal with him and his unstable behaviour which has on more than one occasion upset his daughter to the point of making her cry.
Sorry for this long jumbled rant of a post and thanks for any responses.