I don't think I want more children.

[poshsinglemum]

I am single anyway and I used to feel sad that I might not have more but I am slowly beginning to accept it and indeed WANT it.

DD is wonderful but motherhood has been a huge shock to me and I realise that I'm quite a selfish person and I really miss ME time. I think the logistics must be tough with two and I'm not sure if I want to marry. TBH I'd rather go back to Uni and take dd travelling etc.

I love my dsis but we aren't close and I'm sure taht I'd have been just as happy as an only. When people lament being an only I just think

Good for you posh.

That's cool isn't it? You're happy with your choices and circumstances. Are you expecting criticism?

How old is your dd?

Hey! Having an only is wonderful, nothing to feel sad or negative about. Mt DS is 10 years old, and we have a fantastic life together, I'm also a single Mum but live with extended family.

I get more ME time than I know what to do with, I have no stress and I love being able to enjoy rasing him rather than it being hard work or demanding, which it would be for me if I had more than one.

I really need my time and space, I like to give my undivided attention and I like a good nights sleep, therefore I chose to only have one because I knew I wanted to be the best mother I could, and having one is how I do that (obviously it's different for different women)

So enjoy and make the most of every moment, because they don't stay little for long!

I agree - having an only is fantastic! It really is the best of both worlds in my view.

I've often said on this board that we've got friends with more than one child who openly say that they envy us our position.

I'm sure that many more people would reap the benefits too if they would just stick at one but they're too scared to. Too scared by the social pressure that tells them that they won't be a "proper" family without two or more children and that if they have just one that child will be forever miserable, lonley and grow up maladjusted.

It's all complete nonsense of course and looks even more ridiculous when you write it down!

Enjoy your fabulous life with your DD. I've no doubt she'll benefit hugely from being an only child.

I always say that having a sibling would never compensate or make up for what my DS would have to miss out on by having one. His cousins who live just around the corner do an admirable job as stand-ins and we don't have to pay for their upkeep, or look after them day in and day out and we can send them home when we've all had enough of each other. Perfect!!

I am a very happy only child.

If you only want one only have one. Then stick with your decision - if you have a massive age gap it defeats the object and you end up with two only children iyswim!