what happens if...

[teafortwo]

You love having one child.... you cherish and love your child dearly think being a Mum or Dad is simply lovely, just great and oh so so so much FUUUUUUUN!!!! You feel well - infact really well with life.

BUT

Everyone around you would love you to have more and thinks you would too.... they loosely drop hints here and there and you even get big tender and loving statements about it that make you want to cry now and then.

DH, MIL, Mum, friends, your own siblings, SIL and maybe even your dd or ds themselves?

I am asking because now dd is nearly three this is starting to happen to me - and it all feels a bit strange - I remember some mners mentioning these type of conversations before but I didn't take them in at the time. I wouldn't mind hearing a few experiences and stories on the subject.

Aah for BeerForTwo - I want one just like that!!

Thumbburns - WOW!!! Take care of you. x x x

We have some friends that have two children nine years apart - maybe one day I will be up for something like that. It looks lovely! But right now - the drinksareonus household are staying firmly in this topic area!!!!

thumbburn - I would love you to pop into the tearoom for a cup of tea or something stronger...

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/one_child_families/685848-The-One-and-Only-TEA-Room-Everyone-Welcome-bring-cham pagne

And anyone else who fancies coming along too of course!!!

My DD gave me loads of grief about being an only child from approx age 3 to age 7. She is now 9 and realises how good she has it (except maybe when we go on holiday).

I wanted to be an only child, I wasn't at all happy that Mum presented me with twin brother and sister when I was nearly 4. But Mum had been an only child and sooooo wanted a brother or sister so she made sure I had what she didn't and then was always on at me to be grateful for them! Don't think that helped much...

I think I am odd in not wanting more than one child (not odd to me, but odd to the rest of the people who clearly think that people like me are odd IYSWIM). After all, if everyone was like me the species would die out a lot sooner than it's going to!!

I am, however, more than happy to be considered odd because my small family is manageable in every sense and everyone in it is very happy and fulfilled .

Lots of people who I've had conversations with tell me that they love their children to death but wished they'd stopped at one too.

As much as they'd probably like to, I think that a lot people just aren't brave enough to stop at one because they feel the pressure (be it consciously or unconsciously) to follow like sheep and conform to what others expect of them - be it their family, friends or society in general.

Reading this board over the last few weeks has made me realise how lucky I am to feel the way I do about having an only child.

I think if more people were like you, Gunnarbean, the human race would have a far greater chance of survival.

Gunner