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MadBadandDangerousToKnow · 05/11/2008 12:31

I'm tired and in need of refreshment.

The tea room is now officially open, serving hot chocolate, tea, freshly-squeezed orange juice and a range of home-baked muffins. Tablecloths and crockery are charmingly mismatched antiques (no Cath Kidston here). We overlook an attractive although somewhat overgrown garden, with a distant view of rolling countryside.

Everyone is welcome but house rules dictate that anyone indulging in fisticuffs will be ejected.

Please come in.

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daisy99divine · 26/11/2008 11:44

by the way, remembering the dear children for a moment .... my DS is due to start nursery in January - 3 morning a week - it's a lovely nursery and he is excited

but I am feeling a bit sick - can I go and see them before the end of term - I don't even know the dates for next term? And what about things like nappies and drinks and what he will be doing with whom and when...who will his teacher be and stuff?

OOOOOO my Babee is going to be away from me ... My DH thinks I am bonkers

rebelmum72 · 26/11/2008 11:58

[slinks in, unsure whether this is a private gathering or anyone can join in, but has enjoyed eavesdropping on conversation so far anyway]

Hello everyone

rebelmum72 · 26/11/2008 12:12

[slinks out again, having obviously killed thread....oops]

racingsnake · 26/11/2008 12:27

Just popped in for a quick restorative during lunch hour - I have to admit that I am a teacher (primary school teacher at that) and teacher trainer.

Just left the staff room quickly and decided to have my rocket and feta on rye bread in here (only in my head; in my lunch box it actually appears to be cheese corner on sliced white).

Staff were discussing children, as they do, and wrote off one child: 'Of course he's a problem in the playground; he's another only child.' Am thinking of inventing fictional older sibling for Wrigglesnake - I wonder if I could borrow Mellors for the purpose?

racingsnake · 26/11/2008 12:30

Sorry, didn't notice who was here. Carried in on a wave of pro-only indignation.

Hi everyone! Swap a cheese corner for a pain au raisin?

mistlethrush · 26/11/2008 14:03

Hi Rebelmum - sorry no one was around when you popped in - I gatecrashed and no one seems to have minded, so why don't you stick around and see what happens...

Daisy - Mistledog doesn't know whether to stay or go sometimes - she wants to be near just to ensure that she doesn't miss out on anything (especially things dropped from plates) but sometimes being near has its draw-backs - like sitting on marbles (yesterday) - or, a long time ago now - having to walk slowly into the sitting room and cast an agonised look in my direction as if to say 'GET IT OFF MY TAIL' as ds, just learning to walk, had a really good grip and found she was just the right height Wonderful that she has been so tolerant - although she does know that we protect her and enforce the 'gentle' rule - on the odd occasion that we have heard something snappy (without contact I hasten to add) from her, we've always told off ds as he must have been doing something innappropriate to her

Your ds starting nursery - I've forgotten how old he is? Ds started nursery at 6mo and settled down like a pro - he was very happy at nursery (although he was outgrowing it towards the end) and is now, at the advanced age of 3.5, at school . I got 'one of those' looks from the teaching assistant who was handing over last night - and ds had to have a stern talking to: he knows where the power is (teacher) and, according to him, boundaries are there to be pushed

He also has a tendency to do what he wants to do rather than what he is meant to do - ie doing a pattern I think that he decided to make it pretty by introducing another colour rather than copying the existing pattern! I suppose that it shows creativity and imagination but it doesn't necessarily make him easy to manage.

That soup was lovely thanks, and I think I'll be able to ignore the pain au raisin, at least for a little while yet...

BoccaDellaVerita · 26/11/2008 14:24

Hello everybody! What's the weather like where you are? It is so dark and gloomy here I can barely see to MN! I'm not switching on the light as a small concession to credit crunch and global warming (not a big enough concesion to turn the computer off, you'll notice).

Anyway, where was I? We now have a large tureen of leek and potato soup (ingredients, as always, from the local organic farm) and so luncheon is served.

rebelmum - please come back! This is very definitely not a private conversation and we'd love to have you in our midst. It's just that with people running in and out all day long, bringing cakes, the constant traipsing out into the garden to supervise the children and the fact that we can't always see who has dozed off in the wing chair behind the aspidistra, we don't always spot who's here!

Everyone is very much welcome in the cafe. In fact, racingsnake, bbpants and mistlethrush probably won't mind me saying that they're pretty new here but they've made themselves at home and it's a delight to have them here.

Here, rebelmum - have some soup and crusty bread. I think we've still got a few of the lewd rolls from yesterday.

racingsnake - yes! I think it's fantastically lazy and glib to attribute everything (or at least everything negative) about an only child to their onliness. Nobody would dream of saying 'it's because he has red hair/sticking out ears/whatever'. We were taught very early on at uni that correlation does not necessarily mean cause and effect and it's something I often remember even now, aeons later. I'm sure it's true that, in the venn diagram of life, there is some overlap between people without siblings and people with poor social skills, but there's that same overlap for people with siblings too. I suspect that it's because generally, in our culture - although not on this thread, hurrah! - being an only child is perceived as a negative thing, and so other negative traits in that child are then attributed to their 'only' status.

Do people attribute the positive characteristics of only children to their only status in the same way, I wonder? I suspect not. I don't (alas) get the opportunity to eavesdrop in the classroom, but I doubt that anybody ever says 'BabyBocca has the reading age and vocabulary of a much older child - it must be because she's an only'. The one doesn't necessarily cause the other.

I'd better stop ranting now, though, or we'll scare our lovely new customer away. I expect she came in hoping for refreshments and a sit-down, not to listen to me on my soap box!

BoccaDellaVerita · 26/11/2008 14:26

Mistlethrush - we now have a choice of soups.

daisy99divine · 26/11/2008 15:26

Nice Soap Box Bocca, one can see you are an academic with a way with words, here let me assist - I can cover teh soap box with some of that needlepoint thee and me were doing a while ago!

Hail and well met Rebelsmum! do you have strange a curious pets as well as an only? I am at all the animals in this cafe

LOL at cause and effect Bocca, tis so true - we are who we are for many many reasons, as my DH says, "well, yes, this is clearly your fault, I just haven't worked out why yet" - he is joking btw!

Yum lovely soup, had a cup of each, thanks

and a few lewd crumbs for RacingPig and Percy pigeon who has revived and come to nestle in the cafe

I wouldn't adopt Mellors Racing, far too bad an influence I think!

I know I am being feeble about nursery, it's not proper care one like yours Mistle, more a play group and I think DS is raring to go - it's me I'm worried about!

Hallo DS, he's having a wonderful time in the garden. His wellies are blue and his coat is green cord and his gloves are red and his nose is blue!

BoccaDellaVerita · 26/11/2008 16:01

Daisy - I love the idea of a needlepoint soapbox, like a church kneeler only much bigger! I am now in the process of re-learning to knit, in the interests of home-made Christmas present production. Roll on the craft fair!

I found it quite strange, handing BabyBocca into the care of the pre-school for the first time. I had waited until she was three, so that it was free, and she was certainly raring to go, but I did wibble a bit. (She'd been to nursery when I had some temporary contracts when she was a baby, but that felt different as it was about my going back to work rather than sending her out into the big, wide world while I did the dusting. (This, of course, was before I discovered MN!))

I'm sure it'll go brilliantly. Arrange something fabulous to do once you've dropped him off on the first day - some combination of shopping and cake usually works well!

bbpants · 26/11/2008 16:37

Rebelmum - do come back. I can vouch for what Bocca said - I have only recently started popping in and out and have been made very welcome. (I find some other parts of mumsnet too scary sometimes and this is a good place to come and hide!)

Also, it appears that there is a pretty continuous supply of champagne/cava round here in the evening when all sorts go on, so you might want to venture back then!

daisy99divine · 26/11/2008 16:42

Yes, Bocca, it's unleashing DS into the world that makes me wibble. I went back to work when he was 7 months and he's had a nanny since then, but I have managed to be at home a lot, and know he has a fab time with one to one adult care ...

to be honest, it's how the other children are to him - my childhood was a bewilderment of not understanding why people we mean to me - I didn't really understand that a friend was someone who was nice to you not someone who made you miserable until I was about 18

Now, DS has a wonderful even temperament, so far, and will I think sail through these things that make me feel sick, but I don't want to infect him with my anxiety iyswim

Right, that's a bit serious. Back to animals, mellor and glitter balls!

mistlethrush · 26/11/2008 17:57

Im having the opposite problem at the moment. I have just about accepted that ds will be an only - 2 mc down... However, friend at work is currently expecting her 2nd. She 'doesn't know how she'll cope'. Well, she knew what she was doing - its a bit late to be thinking like that now isn't it sorry rant over.

I agree, language skills are probably better - and we have more time to think about reading and doing letters etc with only 1...

Ds at a bit of a disadvantage though as he's quite tall, looks mature for his age, and has a really wide vocabulary which means people think that he is older so expect more grown-up behaviour from him...

Does anyone want some fairly vegetarian risotto? (Fairly vege because ds, having sucessfully chopped up mushrooms using food chopper, decided to turn it up, push his finger in and have a fiddle with the cutting blades...) I'm sorry, but we've finished up the last of the hard boiled eggs to go on top, but there might be something else around that would add some protein...

rebelmum72 · 26/11/2008 19:35

I'm back! [big wave]

We've been to IKEA and got stuck in the most horrible traffic jam on the way back, it took an hour and half instead of the usual 40 mins or so. DS fell asleep in the car, not surprisingly, so he's only just going to bed now.

As soon as he's gone to sleep, I am going to need a VERY large glass of wine...ooooh, or I could make a start on the pack of flavoured mini-vodkas I got from the Sweden shop at IKEA [worries slightly that alcohol may not be The Done Thing at this cafe and decides to shut up and wait for reassurance....]

rebelmum72 · 26/11/2008 19:38

Oh, except I do have to say that while we don't have a menagerie like some (I'm very much hoping that ds when older will be into having a spider or similar as I love creepy crawlies but dh won't let me have one - I think we stand a better chance if it's two to one!!), we do have a dog - a Parson Russell terrier who is the most spoilt creature I have ever met

mistlethrush · 26/11/2008 21:54

Hi Rebel - sorry, out at choir...

Ikea anywhere in the run up to CHristmas - rather you than me!

You mean you haven't checked out the alcohol consuption rules before you stick your head in!!!

That orange vodka - well, the label is orangy - please could I try that one - not sure what its meant to be, but I'll give it a go.

(ds was whineing about his cut finger too much after doing the cooking - dh had to come and take over for bathtime - too much wailing for MT to cope with!!!)

cmotdibbler · 26/11/2008 22:03

Hello I have been out in the wilds of Lincolnshire (where I turned up, wondered why the sales guy I was supporting was late, phoned him to discover that he had forgotten the appointment, so I did the demo on my own..)

Alcohol, very much the done thing at this cafe after hours. As long as you have enough to share of course ?

DS passed his eye test today, so small celebration in the CMOT household as I, my father and most of my family all have appalling eyesight and there have been some questions over his sight, so a pass on all fronts is great news

mistlethrush · 26/11/2008 22:29

Cnut that lava lamp makes the aspidistra look really great!

Hurrah for dibbler junior's eyes. Need to get similar good news for MT junior's ears - he has inherited dh's dodgy ears. Lets hope he hasn't got dh's dodgy eyes as well!

Where's that cava got to? I could just do with some after that vodka - still not quite sure what flavour it was....

BoccaDellaVerita · 26/11/2008 22:40

So glad to see rebelmum back again. For venturing to Ikea in the run-up to Christmas, she wins today's Tea Room Medal for Bravery.

MT - I agree that it grates when people who have (presumably) made a conscious decision to have more than one child then witter on about not being able to cope (or whatever their particular gripe might be). But, for me, the irritation isn't particularly about babies - it's about people pretending (maybe to themselves too) that something just happened when in fact it was a choice that they made. I find it equally exasperating when people (say) move to a remote island in search of peace and tranquility and then complain that there isn't a branch of Waitrose. Well, dur.

Oh dear, two rants in a day. Will stop now.

Cmot - excellent news about cmottiddler's eyesight. I think that calls for the customary celebration.

Jacksmama · 26/11/2008 22:41

Hi - resident West Coast alcoholoic mum here, could I just have some of that lovely Sauvignon Blanc in a take-away cup please as I have eraands to run... BTW, we must invite lottien to the cafe, she posted me some wine from FRance last month, so how do we do that? I'll leave it in Mama Suprema Bocca's capable hands...

Jacksmama · 26/11/2008 22:42

Oh no, BabyJ has just fallen asleep on my boobie... well, I can'r drink. drive and nurse at the same time so I may as well sit down.

So, how are you all?
Welcome Rebelmum!!!

mistlethrush · 26/11/2008 22:44

JM I do hope that you are on-foot - we wouldn't want you to be irresponsible...

Jacksmama · 26/11/2008 22:46

Moi, irresponsibnle??? Did you see my thread in Chat about worst embarrassing bad-mummy moments? (Clearly not...)
Never!!

Jacksmama · 26/11/2008 22:48

Here it is

BoccaDellaVerita · 26/11/2008 22:51

Hi, jacksmama.

I was re-reading the thread again today and wondering about the customers who came into the tea room in the first few days but haven't been in recently. How should we lure them back? Is it the done thing to start a thread, luring people back onto this one? Or would that look a bit deranged and needy?

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