Coming to terms with one child family after difficult pregnancy and birth

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My dd is 3 in a few months and even though I know I won’t have more children, I still struggle with this. DP and I are late 20s but I had a very difficult pregnancy and labour. I couldn’t do it again even though I love being a mother. I get upset when women (not a close relationship with them) ask if I’ll have another.

Does the feeling pass? Please share some positive stories of having on child, especially if they’re school age or adults.

Watching OP as am feeling similar, just a few years on from you. It really comes and goes and a lot of the time I love being our family of three.

Am feeling constantly triggered at the mo, family & friends having babies, nobody asks anymore if I’ll have another if they know my age (mid 40s). But people endlessly say insensitive things eg how much their kids love one another, isn’t it great that so-and-so now has a sibling, etc etc. Even a stranger I met at a party felt the need to comment recently!

Sorry I know that’s not massively helpful. But to answer your question about the advantages: our kids will have all our attention, we can focus on their interests, more time and money to spend on them, close bond and not pulled in different directions. Lots of benefits!

Thank you for sharing! The comments are the worse. I’m not an only child so it annoys me when other women tell me it’s great to have siblings (I already know). I should focus on the benefits of having one!