One and done but not by choice?

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Our son is 3y7m, he was conceived on our first round of IVF. We had a spare embryo left from that round and we completed a FET this month, which unfortunately failed. It's impossible for us to conceive naturally, and for various reasons are unlikely to do another round of IVF, so that was our one and only shot at having a biological sibling.
We're naturally a bit sad and I've been quite up and down, feeling a lot of different emotions.
Has anyone else been in a similar situation? How did you feel about it?

Sorry you're going through this. Two books helped me - firstly Fertile Thinking, which is about dealing with the emotional rollercoaster of infertility, including the difficult decision of when to stop. Secondly Parenting your only child which is vety helpful exploring the emotions around having just one child, and very effective at alleviating the guilt.

It is possible to find peace on the other side - not that I'm not sometimes sad not to have managed a second child, but it doesn't hurt like it used to. Hope you find your way to that place too.

I had premature ovarian failire so after dd was born, couldn't have any more. Broke my heart at the time. Took me ages to come to terms with it.
Now, l barely even give it a second thought - dd is happy and thriving - we always have a houseful of teenagers because l always make her friends welcome (sometimes think l over compensate).
Dd has never know any different.
Give yourself time to grieve op xx

I had a second IVF transfer fail in October and we have decided to not go again. I have three friends currently pregnant which is a bit hard right now. I'm hoping that in a few years it won't be an issue any more.

Literally exact same situation. I'm having my transfer on Monday. But if it fails, I'll be in the same position you are. I think I'm prepared to accept it though. Or, that's what I feel right now.

I hope it works for you @paintfairy.

I am ok with it in terms of my life right now as life is busy and fun with DS but I am sad that I won't have multiple adult children.

Am focusing on the positives though of which there are many. Life deals it's cards and overall I haven't done badly and I am very grateful for that.

I have a 6 year old daughter from IVF and not had anymore. She was our only embryo and we weren’t going to put ourselves through it all again.
I am now actually really happy to have only one child and we have many friends who have stuck at one. We have so much more time, money and energy for her and she is happy.

Hope you come to terms with only having one and your son will be fine :)

I can see pros and cons of both to be honest and I'm not sure even by choice, what the right answer is. It just seemed silly not to try when we've got one embryo left. I wouldn't go through the whole thing again though, too old, and I'd rather spend the money on us, as a current family. We aren't missing anything - DD is everything i ever wanted. And I think what's meant to be will be. Also I realise we are lucky to even have her really, as some people aren't so lucky.

I would definitely use a remaining embryo @paintfairy and i really hope it works for you but it is good that you are largely at peace whatever the outcome.