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Bellee11 · 04/01/2025 15:06

My husband and I decided to be one and done after having my DS 7 years ago but for a couple of years have been imagining having a 2nd, or at least trying for another.

I'm nearly 42 and very aware that time is not on my side. My DH is happy with one and I'm also happy but still have that little yearning for second, like an unanswered question. I kind of felt like I'd see how the next year played out and see what fate had in store. However, a great job opportunity has arisen but changing jobs now would mean it'd be over a year before I qualified for maternity - I'd be past 43 by that point, pretty much putting an end to the chance of a second.
Do I put an end to the chance of a second (bearing in mind my age and distinct possibility it might not happen) and pursue the new job opportunity or ignore the job but risk having no second child AND no new job?
I had to side line my career when I had my DS, I've worked my way up again and have job i like now but this new opportunity would be an interesting next step with development opportunities.

I know there is probably no right or wrong answer, just different paths but it'd be interesting to get your opinions.

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KnickerlessParsons · 04/01/2025 15:08

I wouldn't want to have an 8 year age gap between children. They won't have anything in common until they're much much older. And it might be a bigger gap because you might not get pregnant straight away.
I'd stay with the one.

erihskreb · 04/01/2025 15:09

You’d still get SMP - could you save up the difference if that’s your main concern? Presumably the new job pays more?

Bellee11 · 04/01/2025 15:30

Btw, I'm not concerned about any age gap. There's 9 years between my sister and I and we are close. There's pros and cons to all age gaps I think.

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