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Friends daughter left out of wedding photos

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MumToOne26 · 01/06/2024 08:26

My 2 friends got married recently. For context they have a 3 year old together who wasn't planned. Child is quite often 'palmed off' on family at the evenings or weekends which I feel so sorry for the child as she's a lovely little one. On the wedding day child was a flower girl so she was part of the ceremony. For the rest of the day they pretended she didn't exist. Child was meant to be looked after by a family member but she ended up following me around all day as she's best friends with my daughter. After the ceremony obviously there were the photos. Mums now shared the photos all over her Facebook. She isn't shy to share her child on Facebook so not like the lack of child photos is due to privacy. Child was in the whole wedding photos outside. She was also in one photo with grandma and mum and in one photo with grandparents, mum and dad. But that's it. No photo of the 3 of them at all. There were about 15 photos of the bridesmaids and bride. Tonnes of photos of groom and groomsmen. Photos of aunt, uncle and their kids as a family but no photos of them 3! Is this mad or is it me? No one came and got the child for a family photo. The mum and dad didn't send anyone to find her. The family didn't suggest they take her to go get photos with her parents. No one seemed to think about it (and to be fair I didn't think about it at the time but it's not my place anyway). I know child isn't really wanted by them but she's part of their family regardless! They can't just pretend like she doesn't exist. Like when she's older and she asks where she was in the wedding photos, what are they going to say? It's been winding me up so just seeing what others think!

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YorkNew · 01/06/2024 08:29

Maybe they wanted their wedding day to be all about the two of them.

RampantIvy · 01/06/2024 08:29

She doen't sound very nice. Why are you friends with her?

Bellevilles · 01/06/2024 08:34

Maybe they thought spending ages posing for staged photos would be boring for her and agreed with her that she could go and play after being good for the ceremony?

RampantIvy · 01/06/2024 08:36

YorkNew · 01/06/2024 08:29

Maybe they wanted their wedding day to be all about the two of them.

Weddings are't just about the bride and groom though. A wedding is a celebration and a party, and is about the guests and wider family as well.

I really dislike this modern trend of weddings being just about the bride and groom.

wizarddry · 01/06/2024 08:37

Or.. they knew their child would get grouchy if forced to partake in a long boring photo shoot so just did what they could then let her go play

Divilabit · 01/06/2024 08:55

wizarddry · 01/06/2024 08:37

Or.. they knew their child would get grouchy if forced to partake in a long boring photo shoot so just did what they could then let her go play

This is perfectly possible. OP, you said yourself that you didn’t think of it at the time, and didn’t notice the three year old wasn’t in many photos. Maybe they didn’t either? I couldn’t get excited about it, tbh.

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